The problem isn't official church policy.
The problem is members who treat gays and gay issues in a dismissive or disdainful manner. Not very Christ-like, IMO.
The church can talk about loving everyone until they're blue in the face - it's up to the membership to walk the walk, and generally they're doing a piss poor job.
“Silence is golden, and gold is up these days, so silence is a solid investment.”
― Jarod Kintz
I like the "Hope" portion. Like your conquering some disease or illness. How Gay people stay in the church after the way they are treated is beyond me.
I've always thought it would be nice if gays understood the actual policy on this issue, but in recent years I have decided it would be better if the MEMBERS understood the policy, and acted accordingly.