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Dr. Jones said:
Relationships are overrated.
Just have a kid or two. Preferably a little girl.
Skip the marriage ********.
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I wonder so much about this PKM. Some people are married and very happy together and think marriage is the way to go, and others advocate your sentiment about relationships being overrated.
I've come to the conclusion that both can be right. I think Some people are made for marriage and find someone else that is made for marriage and a good life companion for them. Furthermore, some people are probably happier not doing the marriage till death do us part thing. Nothing wrong with that, it's just their preference. Additionally, I think your core beliefs factor in and can propel you into either sphere. It's interesting to me. I wonder if by the time I'm 80 if the secular community would have by then decided marriage is an archaic institution that should not be perpetuate any longer. I think we are headed that way. We'll see.


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Batman said:
I wonder so much about this PKM. Some people are married and very happy together and think marriage is the way to go, and others advocate your sentiment about relationships being overrated.
I've come to the conclusion that both can be right. I think Some people are made for marriage and find someone else that is made for marriage and a good life companion for them. Furthermore, some people are probably happier not doing the marriage till death do us part thing. Nothing wrong with that, it's just their preference. Additionally, I think your core beliefs factor in and can propel you into either sphere. It's interesting to me. I wonder if by the time I'm 80 if the secular community would have by then decided marriage is an archaic institution that should not be perpetuate any longer. I think we are headed that way. We'll see.


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I should get some lecturing from Dr Peeks how to knock her preggy. Dayyum man. Thing is real easy for some folk for sure.

And remember kids, if you ever use Jazzfanz App, use it safe.
 
Duck Rodgers said:
And you said you've been over there for two months? That's way too many first dates. Where are you meeting these girls? Are they all Thai or do you have some expats mixed in that 12? Unless these girls are all bailing on you...and wouldn't accept 2nd dates with you.....which of course you probably wouldn't admit is happening on here if that was the case....... But if it's you just moving on that quick.......you gotta stick in longer than that.....your standard to want to take a girl out on a 2nd date shouldn't be that high. If you even like 1 thing about them after that first date, it's probably worth seeing what happens once you warm to each other a little.
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I know it's way too many first dates but yeah that's what happened. Some of them I met them just once and there wasn't a single thing we have in common, no physical attraction or chemistry, so I just didn't see them again (2-3 were like this). Some of them I really liked but she obviously had other guys lined up as well so she didn't text me back (or did so sparingly that there's no point pursuing). Some of them were REALLY nice in terms of attentiveness, really friendly, .. but again there's no physical attraction there, so after 2-3 dates we just drifted apart.. some of them I saw for the whole of 2 months but then later found out that there were too many differences between us and we just couldn't compromise enough between us to make it work ...

I know 2 months isn't a long time, really, but this trip was more of an experimental one.. when I move back here properly I would probably have more time to:

1) choose more wisely and carefully before committing

2) take more time on the ones with more potential and spend less time on the 'iffy' ones and not let them go on as long as I did

3) narrow down my own requirements a bit more and see what I can compromise on and what I can't change


Although it hasn't been fruitful, I've learnt a lot, and hopefully this 'trial run' has some merits... I've kept a small journal/diary of this trip so I should be able to look back and reflect on the experience.. and hopefully have a better one next year.
 
NAOS said:
why are you moving there? Sounds dope, btw. It also sounds like I'd have a helluva lot more fun there than you. But, still, cool, braugh.
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It's my hometown, I've been away for 23 years, so yeah kinda miss it and have been wanting to move back for a while now.


It would be 'fun' if my your mindset is 'date a different girl each night, have meaningless sex every weekend and just go crazy'... But if you want to find someone real, who you can connect and have a long term relationship with, it's hard.. cos the social structure here is such that nowadays girls/women here are very material based, they are raised to find/hook up with guys with flash cars, good jobs, come from good family, etc ..
 
Dr. Jones said:
Relationships are overrated.
Just have a kid or two. Preferably a little girl.
Skip the marriage ********.
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No way man. Skip the kids ******** and just chill with your wife all day. I love my kids dearly, but I'd take my wife over them 100 times out of 100 times.
 
Dr. Jones said:
My truth.

My wife is full of life, beautiful, caring, loves me dearly... all the things one would hope for..

Still, if we were ever done, for whatever reason, I'd be single forever. I've been happy to compromise my time, feelings, and what I want to do when I want to do it for almost 20 years.

But I wouldn't do it going forward if given a choice. Would spend my time on my kids and stuff I want to do, only.
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100% this. I've given my all to this relationship. I'd never put forth this much effort ever again. My wife has been with me since my poor, worthless days. My kids are all great.

Why would I let some whore come in and take what my wife had built? And then she'd probably have kids or want more kids...hell no.

This is it. If my wife passes, I'm done. Fishing, Ute games, this board, I'd probably go back to the corporate route and build myself an empire or something...but getting married/hooked up again? Nope.
 
People say that they w o up never get married again, and I'm sure some wouldn't. But I think after a couple years of having your own schedule you would want someone to share life with.
 
ONE LOVE said:
It's my hometown, I've been away for 23 years, so yeah kinda miss it and have been wanting to move back for a while now.


It would be 'fun' if my your mindset is 'date a different girl each night, have meaningless sex every weekend and just go crazy'... But if you want to find someone real, who you can connect and have a long term relationship with, it's hard.. cos the social structure here is such that nowadays girls/women here are very material based, they are raised to find/hook up with guys with flash cars, good jobs, come from good family, etc ..
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Yesus Christo, dude, are you that bi-polar? There are 100,000 ways to have fun that are in between this either-or scenario you just painted. You need to relax.
 
NAOS said:
Yesus Christo, dude, are you that bi-polar? There are 100,000 ways to have fun that are in between this either-or scenario you just painted. You need to relax.
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Yeah, it ain't about having crazy sex with a different girl every weekend. I mean, it ain't not about that if you want it to be, but I enjoy the company of women. If I were single I'd just be about having someone to go out to dinner with, or to a brew festival, or whatever else. I'd just be trying to hang out with women in a casual way as much as possible. And if it got to be a little more than casual then awesome. Acting like every date is a tryout for marriage is a great way to have a miserable time hanging out with nice females.
 
Batman said:
I'm wading through the last 20 mins of a 7pm to 5am shift. Sitting in a room with 30+ dispatchers. This is my 10th day in a row, each shift 10 hours. Tomorrow I'm gonna go see the new Independence Day and write poetry. It's gonna be an epic day off!


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Dork.

Congrats on the engagement btw.
 
Dr. Jones said:
I hate to go full Yoda on ya.. but I don't believe in finding true love when you're in pursuit of it.
Let it go. And let it show up unexpectedly.
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Boris said:
This sounds like teenager advise. How old are you?
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Joe Bagadonuts said:
This sounds like teenager criticism of adult advise. How old are you?
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moevillini said:
Boris is just a schtick. Schtick's have no age.
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It is teenager advice an it is good advice to keep the youthful mentality that is why I ask [MENTION=430]Dr. Jones[/MENTION].
In my opinion throwing away youthful attitude is accepting of impending death. Teenagers are so full of life an let things come to them as they will.
 
Gameface said:
Yeah, it ain't about having crazy sex with a different girl every weekend. I mean, it ain't not about that if you want it to be, but I enjoy the company of women. If I were single I'd just be about having someone to go out to dinner with, or to a brew festival, or whatever else. I'd just be trying to hang out with women in a casual way as much as possible. And if it got to be a little more than casual then awesome. Acting like every date is a tryout for marriage is a great way to have a miserable time hanging out with nice females.
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Dr. Jones said:
^that.

It's about fun.
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I did have fun on this trip, there's no question about that ... lots of stuff I got to that I wouldn't want to divulge here but on the potential for long term / marriage type relationship it hasn't been fruitful.
 
Boris said:
It is teenager advice an it is good advice to keep the youthful mentality that is why I ask [MENTION=430]Dr. Jones[/MENTION].
In my opinion throwing away youthful attitude is accepting of impending death. Teenagers are so full of life an let things come to them as they will.
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Hence Dr. Jones' sage advise.
 
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