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Tonight she just said “seize to amaze me”. I’m starting to wonder what kind of person I married and allowed to birth my kids.
My wife is descent with this stuff but she says a few things intentionally in a way that has no connection to who she is, where she grew up or anything and I don't get why. For instance, she says "taters" instead of "potatoes" and "maters" instead of "tomatoes" and that is NOT the way people in her family say those things nor is it the way people said it where we grew up (I didn't know her when we were in elementary school, but she lived about a mile from me and went to the next elementary school over from mine). I mean she might be doing it ironically, but I've known her for 29 years now and it sounds less and less ironic and more annoying as time goes on.
 
my husband has some idiosyncratic speech habits that I think may be due to his having grown up on
Long Guyland - I now find them amusing but they irked me to no end for many years:

close the light (turn it off)
and
kitchen closet (for cabinet or cupboard)

and to be honest, he never said Long Guyland, but his parents and sisters did
 
my husband has some idiosyncratic speech habits that I think may be due to his having grown up on
Long Guyland - I now find them amusing but they irked me to no end for many years:

close the light (turn it off)
and
kitchen closet (for cabinet or cupboard)

and to be honest, he never said Long Guyland, but his parents and sisters did
Does he say "adver-TIZE-ment" or "advertusmunt"?
 
Does he say "adver-TIZE-ment" or "advertusmunt"?

I'm not sure, maybe I've never heard him use that word.

And funny thing, when I read your post, in my mind I said it as "adver-TIZE-mint" but if I'm using that word in a conversation I'll say "advertusmint" - it just flows better I guess.


I know there are other words I'll do that with (say it one way if it's just by itself but a different way in a sentence) though I can't think of any specific examples at the moment.
 
I'm not sure, maybe I've never heard him use that word.

And funny thing, when I read your post, in my mind I said it as "adver-TIZE-mint" but if I'm using that word in a conversation I'll say "advertusmint" - it just flows better I guess.


I know there are other words I'll do that with (say it one way if it's just by itself but a different way in a sentence) though I can't think of any specific examples at the moment.
Dialect is very interesting. There's a guy on YouTube who critiques dialects by actors. It's worth a watch.
 
Changing meds. Every so often my medications stop working. It's the nature of the beast for antidepressants and the like. Sometimes it'll go years, other times months. And finding a new one, or moving back to an old one, is just such a bad thing. Was hopeful for CBD but it had no effect on me. Looking possibly at a mixture of CBD with slightly higher traces of THC. There are a few experimental meds out there right now that I might be a candidate for. Wish there was a magic bullet. Depression/PTSD sucks. Everything feels like a monumental effort. Sometimes just getting out of bed is a huge force of will.
 
Changing meds. Every so often my medications stop working. It's the nature of the beast for antidepressants and the like. Sometimes it'll go years, other times months. And finding a new one, or moving back to an old one, is just such a bad thing. Was hopeful for CBD but it had no effect on me. Looking possibly at a mixture of CBD with slightly higher traces of THC. There are a few experimental meds out there right now that I might be a candidate for. Wish there was a magic bullet. Depression/PTSD sucks. Everything feels like a monumental effort. Sometimes just getting out of bed is a huge force of will.
That sounds horrible. I'm sorry

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Lane splitting is illegal in Utah. When I had a motorcycle in California people lane split all the time but I was under the impression that it was illegal in California as well unless traffic was under 15 mph and you could use it to pull to the front of traffic at lights. I have no problem with it being used that way. It is dangerous to do it at high speeds, California has very loose motorcycle laws and a lot of deaths per accident and a lot of accidents per rider last time I looked at the stats. I think Motorcyclists usually are just putting themselves at risk but not always. Generally most the people doing the lane splitting seem to be bullet bike riders that tend to be awful people to be around. I used to ride a bullet bike when I was like 18-20 but I grew up. They are fun to goof around on but just really dangerous and not comfortable to ride and not fun to ride except really fast.
Come May, lane splitting will become legal in Utah under certain restrictions. I think the speed limit can not excel 45 MPH, and it has to have two lanes.

I ride and watch a lot of motorcycle vlogs on YouTube e.g. Snowcat and Motobroo. It amazes me how pissed off people get when riders lane split. It's safer (especially when understood) and reduces traffic. I don't know how it will work in Utah considering how bad drivers are, how oblivious they are and how inconsiderate.

Anyone else ride? Would be fun to do a ride sometime.
 
Changing meds. Every so often my medications stop working. It's the nature of the beast for antidepressants and the like. Sometimes it'll go years, other times months. And finding a new one, or moving back to an old one, is just such a bad thing. Was hopeful for CBD but it had no effect on me. Looking possibly at a mixture of CBD with slightly higher traces of THC. There are a few experimental meds out there right now that I might be a candidate for. Wish there was a magic bullet. Depression/PTSD sucks. Everything feels like a monumental effort. Sometimes just getting out of bed is a huge force of will.

My wife goes through the same thing. You have my sympathy.
 
Changing meds. Every so often my medications stop working. It's the nature of the beast for antidepressants and the like. Sometimes it'll go years, other times months. And finding a new one, or moving back to an old one, is just such a bad thing. Was hopeful for CBD but it had no effect on me. Looking possibly at a mixture of CBD with slightly higher traces of THC. There are a few experimental meds out there right now that I might be a candidate for. Wish there was a magic bullet. Depression/PTSD sucks. Everything feels like a monumental effort. Sometimes just getting out of bed is a huge force of will.
This is something I'm learning. Going through it with Mrs. BigB
 
Changing meds. Every so often my medications stop working. It's the nature of the beast for antidepressants and the like. Sometimes it'll go years, other times months. And finding a new one, or moving back to an old one, is just such a bad thing. Was hopeful for CBD but it had no effect on me. Looking possibly at a mixture of CBD with slightly higher traces of THC. There are a few experimental meds out there right now that I might be a candidate for. Wish there was a magic bullet. Depression/PTSD sucks. Everything feels like a monumental effort. Sometimes just getting out of bed is a huge force of will.
Sorry to hear that, Log.

Have you ever tried kratom or kava? Mayne those are something to look into. I occasionally get serotonin/mood supplements on Amazon that I like too.
 
My wife goes through the same thing. You have my sympathy.

This is something I'm learning. Going through it with Mrs. BigB

It's the hardest thing in the world living with someone dealing with heavy clinical depression, imo. It has no visible symptoms, we get really good at hiding it, but it never leaves, even with good medication and therapy. It's like constantly walking through thick mud, like you have weights all over your body, often like living in a haze where your thinking is muddled and even your vision and hearing can be affected. Everything is a monumental effort. You are never who you think you should be. It's stifling. For those who support someone dealing with this I understand the difficulty and you have my utmost respect. I thank God every single day for my wife and that she has stuck with me for 27 years.
 
Sorry to hear that, Log.

Have you ever tried kratom or kava? Mayne those are something to look into. I occasionally get serotonin/mood supplements on Amazon that I like too.
Tried kava. The problem there is getting a consistent dose, but even then it wasn't very effective besides making me tired. Only took kratom a few times but it amped up my anxiety, and again the dosing problem.

There are some promising things in the horizon, including MDMA and ketamine, even psilocybin, but they are all still quite a ways away from being viable therapies.
 
Tried kava. The problem there is getting a consistent dose, but even then it wasn't very effective besides making me tired. Only took kratom a few times but it amped up my anxiety, and again the dosing problem.

There are some promising things in the horizon, including MDMA and ketamine, even psilocybin, but they are all still quite a ways away from being viable therapies.
You should ask eenie-meenie what to do...

Have you ever considered electroshock therapy? My mom dealt with depression as long as I knew her and got electroshock therapy and it made a huge difference. Can't say it "cured" her, but it definitely hit the reset button on a few things that had gone off the rails.
 
It's the hardest thing in the world living with someone dealing with heavy clinical depression, imo. It has no visible symptoms, we get really good at hiding it, but it never leaves, even with good medication and therapy. It's like constantly walking through thick mud, like you have weights all over your body, often like living in a haze where your thinking is muddled and even your vision and hearing can be affected. Everything is a monumental effort. You are never who you think you should be. It's stifling. For those who support someone dealing with this I understand the difficulty and you have my utmost respect. I thank God every single day for my wife and that she has stuck with me for 27 years.

I don't feel it the same as I hear others describe it. For me, its sheer, utter unending boredom, and that's something people don't seem to pity. I think they think they understand, it is just boredom and everyone gets that right?

Commenting on it or reading about it from others only magnifies my concentration on it.
 
Changing meds. Every so often my medications stop working. It's the nature of the beast for antidepressants and the like. Sometimes it'll go years, other times months. And finding a new one, or moving back to an old one, is just such a bad thing. Was hopeful for CBD but it had no effect on me. Looking possibly at a mixture of CBD with slightly higher traces of THC. There are a few experimental meds out there right now that I might be a candidate for. Wish there was a magic bullet. Depression/PTSD sucks. Everything feels like a monumental effort. Sometimes just getting out of bed is a huge force of will.
Good luck, I know that is a rough cross to bear.
 
Have you tried EMDR? My dad still suffers from ‘Nam here and there and I know he started doing EMDR a year ago.
 
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