Something I’ve noticed regarding the way people talk about transgender people is that they seem to think that someone being transgender is not about the transgender person, but about them. As if transgender people are trying to trick you, but you’re just too damn clever for that. As if a transgender person is not expressing themselves and presenting themselves according to how they really feel but that they are just trying to sucker you into playing along with their prank. Transgender people are often treated as though they are dishonest, that they are lying. It is that dismissive way of treating a transgender person’s gender identity that manifests itself in the form of refusing to address trans people according to their preferred pronouns. Something that costs you nothing. Something that takes nothing from you or your cis-gender status. It is this dismissiveness of trans gender identity that allows trans people to be dehumanized. To be treated not only like a joke, but as inherently deceptive therefore morally abhorrent. Trans people are not trying to trick you. Identifying as a trans person comes with many risks and huge disadvantages. It would be a stupid game to play just to trick you into giving them basic respect as an individual who has every right to live their life in a way that brings them the most comfort and the greatest possibility for happiness.