Wife cheated on me... again

[Gameface]

Unless you want to be in an open relationship I don't think there's any fixing things.

 

[DarkMount]

Unless you want to be in an open relationship I don't think there's any fixing things.

I agree, and we talked about that a bit a while back. But I decided it wasn't going to work for me.

I've talked to her again and we have both decided it would best for everyone if we were to just move on.

Thanks everyone for the comments it actually really helped me figure out where I stand and what I should do. I think it will be better for me especially in the long run. I honestly never felt she loved me and she's pretty much agreed with that.

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[DarkMount]

The thing I don't understand at all is that if she's feeling stressed about her work, studies, tests, kids, finances etc - how does having an extra-curricular relationship relieve that stress? Seems to me that would add to the stress.
So that "excuse" seems like a total cop-out.

Best of luck as you figure out how to move forward.

Her reasoning was that it allowed her to go to a place in her head where none of those things were. Or whatever. But you are right.

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[Dr. Jones]

Obviously you can do way way better.
Treat her well during the process. This isn't the time to get even.
Do what's best for you but not in a vengeful way.
Glass is 3/4 full now.

 

[Gameface]

I'm very against cheating so if it's me, I'm outta there. As tough as the ******** laws are for husbands, I imagine that you could win custody of the kids given her unstable state of mind, continuous cheating, and such. If she tries to lie, you have your computer for IT guys to prove she did. And cell records would help support that as well I'd think. I'm sorry for you and very sorry for the kids. That's a ****ty situation. Good luck, man.

In Utah the woman will always get custody. I mean she could be a crackhead, abusive, adulterous, crook. She'll get custody and a nice child support check.

Sounds like she pulled the old send me through school and I'll leave when I'm ready to make my own money maneuver. Gotta hand it to her, it's an old trick but it works.

 

[Miggs]

I agree, and we talked about that a bit a while back. But I decided it wasn't going to work for me.

I've talked to her again and we have both decided it would best for everyone if we were to just move on.

Thanks everyone for the comments it actually really helped me figure out where I stand and what I should do. I think it will be better for me especially in the long run. I honestly never felt she loved me and she's pretty much agreed with that.

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Much love bro. Getting it off your chest probably helped a ton. And this will be better for your kids, especially if she's amicable about the divorce proceedings. Good luck man and keep your chin up.

 

[Miggs]

In Utah the woman will always get custody. I mean she could be a crackhead, abusive, adulterous, crook. She'll get custody and a nice child support check.

Sounds like she pulled the old send me through school and I'll leave when I'm ready to make my own money maneuver. Gotta hand it to her, it's an old trick but it works.

I highly doubt his wife was so cunning in her approach. To say so given his situation isn't really cool tbh.

 

[Gameface]

I highly doubt his wife was so cunning in her approach. To say so given his situation isn't really cool tbh.

lol, Dr. Jones called her a whore.

Whether she thought about it from the start or realized halfway through or after the fact, I bet she sees her opportunities for what they are and his obligations for what they are.

 

[Boris]

Stop. Sewing of wild oats has nothing to do with it.
Nor does Mormonism.
Better guess is she's an entirely selfish narcissistic fiend.

You stop. I am not making excuses I am explaining a probable psychological cause for the situation.

I feel terrible for the OP. I am glad he came here to vent and advice.

 

[Dr. Jones]

You stop. I am not making excuses I am explaining a probable psychological cause for the situation.

I feel terrible for the OP. I am glad he came here to vent and advice.

Ok

 

[Gameface]

I highly doubt his wife was so cunning in her approach. To say so given his situation isn't really cool tbh.

I mention it because this is one of a dozen or so cases where I've seen the exact same thing. A guy supports his spouse as she goes through school. Once she's pretty much set and doesn't need his support anymore she moves on.

There was a common one from the Navy as well. Guy spends 20+ years in the Navy, puts in his paperwork to retire, comes back next week telling everyone that his wife filed for divorce. I don't think the woman planned 20 years ago that she was going to file for divorce the day her husband retired from the Navy, but as things go she wasn't accustomed to him being at home more than half the time and the prospect of him being around so much wasn't very appealing and since she was with him the majority of the time he was in the Navy half his retirement check will be headed her direction no matter what. When the system is rigged people tend to play it to their advantage. That's kind of how humans work.

 

[Miggs]

lol, Dr. Jones called her a whore.

Whether she thought about it from the start or realized halfway through or after the fact, I bet she sees her opportunities for what they are and his obligations for what they are.

She was a whore. She cheated on him multiple times. That doesn't mean she used him for her own academic and career advancement, twisting her mustache and hatching a plan. Because one is flawed in one way doesn't mean they're a complete POS in every other way imaginable.