So in your personal code of ethics it's fine to be bigoted against people as long as you perceive it doesn't hurt them? Who decides who was hurt? Who decides whose pain matters and whose is fully acceptable? Do you think that white privilege or similar means that individuals deserve some kind of pain?
Note I am not taking relative pain, I'm talking absolute, as perceived by the individual. There will be people hurt and offended by Warren's words regarding religion and men, are they not allowed to feel pain? Or are you saying that it doesn't matter if they do or that you just don't care if they do because largely they will be people with privilege? Does they change if it offends someone of some protected class?