Agreed with everything here but the oppressive language...
Mormon culture can come across as uncomfortable, inclusive, uppity, holier than thou, and a lot of things, but oppressive is a bit over the top. I went to Saudi Arabia 2 months ago where hands are cut off for stealing and heads are cutoff for selling drugs. People sell reeds in the streets... the purpose... to whip any woman who exposes her legs. If you don't veil your head you are seen as lessor than...
I lived in Hawaii where if you aren't native, you are outcast. Dude peed on my car just because I was a tourist (even though I lived there).
I lived in Mexico where terms unnacceptable to most are extremely common and where people pee in bags to throw them at opposing players on the soccer pitch.
When I lived in Alberta, Canadians wouldn't interact with me because they felt I was there to steal their jobs (similar perspective as many here in the US treat Mexicans and many Mexicans treat Guatamalans). Cold shoulder treatment at lunch, in meetings. Very uncomfortable, but clearly not oppressive.
Most places have some level of cultural discomfort, but perspective makes a big difference. Oppressive is a bit over the top methinks.
Perhaps we have seen each other retreating in the hills and lakes btw. I wouldn't know... I was too busy practicing wicken.