This. My oldest daughter is not biologically mine. Anyone who tries to take her away from me will have the fight of their lives on their hands.
Did you ever think she was biologically yours though?
I knew before she was born that she wasn't. However I put in the work. I was there when she went to school, learned to ride a bike, swim, read. I took her to her games, doctors appointments. Babied her when she was sick. Who is to ever tell me she isn't mine?
If that is anyones opinion here then to hell with you.
Edit: I did get a DNA test just in case though and I hoped that I would be wrong.
I knew before she was born that she wasn't. However I put in the work. I was there when she went to school, learned to ride a bike, swim, read. I took her to her games, doctors appointments. Babied her when she was sick. Who is to ever tell me she isn't mine?
If that is anyones opinion here then to hell with you.
Edit: I did get a DNA test just in case though and I hoped that I would be wrong.
My father stayed with my mom for us, the kids, and in doing so, presented an unhealthy relationship for years and years and years. Similarly, I can't imagine living a life, pretending it never happened, and trying to reconcile something that for me is irreconcilable, just for the kids. A single parent home sort of sucks I'm sure but if both parents remain active and positive in their children's lives, I see no reason they can't be raised as well, if not better, than a home where smiling through your teeth becomes the norm.
File for divorce, go for custody of the kids, and move on.
I know this is anecdotal and just my opinion but opinions were asked and this is mine.
I decided that it would be better for my children to see their mother and I happy but seperated then learn from experience to associate marriage with unhappiness.
I'm just saying you would probably have an emotional reaction, at least initially, if you had found she wasn't yours after 4 years of thinking she was.