Need some advice, please

[One Brow]

I've done things in the name of discipline that I am sure others think is horrible.

None of that seemed horrible to me. Then again, I regularly ate leftovers for breakfast, before I had teen-aged sons.

I don't think this is a situation that requires child protective services. I think parents should have a lot of leeway when it comes to how they discipline their kids. They are, after all, the ones who are ultimately responsible for their children's actions. I find it a little hard to swallow that you can be held accountable for your children's actions, yet you are not allowed to guide/punish them as you see fit to encourage them to act in a way you find acceptable.

If evey parent disciplined their child in a rational fashion, carefully weighting the combined measures of communication, punishment, and the child's own personality, I would agree with you. However, too many parents discipline in ways that are destructive and coutner-productive, causing their kids to act out even more.

 

[Scat]

For the OP, I'd say do nothing for now. That's a little weird but if it's for a short time then no biggie.

Creative discipline is nice but sometimes I find it interesting how much parents/teachers will put themselves out just to discipline a kid. They (parents/teachers) punish themselves more sometimes. But other times those methods work.

I tend to keep it simple and just put the fear of God in them early on and then draw on that. "Please don't slam your door or my foot will be in your ***", "Please don't do drugs or my foot will be in your ***", "Please get good grades or my foot will be in your ***".

Physical threats works with boys. Not girls. If I told my daughters that I would put a foot in their *** for slamming their door you know what would happen? Yup, they'd burst into tears, run to their room and... slam the door.

Most of the more creative punishments I come up with are for the girls. I don't think my son could care less if he has a bedroom door.

Motivating girls is also much more difficult than boys. If I tell my son that he can't accomplish something he'll go out and do it just to prove me wrong. Tell that to my daughters and I get tears and, "Why can't you just support me!?"

 

[Gyp Rosetti]

If all parents were as stern with their children then maybe I would find airline flights and restaurant meals far more enjoyable. Children should be seen and not heard if you absolutely must parade your loathsome crotch-fruit in public.

I heartily approve!

This. I don't let kids speak in my class.

 

[Gyp Rosetti]

Ask him if you could interview the child, from behind plate-glass. See if this kid is as smart as they say. Will he smell your perfume? Will he be able to trace your roots back to a small coal mining town in West Virginia? Will Multiple Miggs fling his ejaculate at you?

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8e5SV3uzgX4

 

[UB]

Somebody needs to replace the music on the scene where Bill tucks it (Goodbye Horses) with "Party In The USA."

 

[moevillini]

neither here nor there, but it's interesting how some folks are much quicker to get the "state" involved than others, yet I wonder if some of them are the same folks who complain about the so-called "nanny state"


At any rate, Surely, good luck figuring it all out.

 

[franklin]

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8e5SV3uzgX4

How did you find video of the fellow I'm not going to name but everyone knows I'm referring to?

 

[franklin]

Most of the more creative punishments I come up with are for the girls. I don't think my son could care less if he has a bedroom door.

Have your boys discovered the Victoria's Secret mailer yet?

 

[UB]

How did you find video of the fellow I'm not going to name but everyone knows I'm referring to?

theres this intranet we're all using to look for stuff and things

 

[YB85]

neither here nor there, but it's interesting how some folks are much quicker to get the "state" involved than others, yet I wonder if some of them are the same folks who complain about the so-called "nanny state".

When it comes to a child, I would rather err on the side of being too cautious than kick myself for the rest of my life that maybe I should have done something.

 

[Scat]

Have your boys discovered the Victoria's Secret mailer yet?

It comes while they are at school. No way they get to it before I get to it, dog ear all the pages with stuff that my wife needs and then give it to her.

 

[franklin]

When it comes to a child, I would rather err on the side of being too cautious than kick myself for the rest of my life that maybe I should have done something.

Yes, I see your point. The protestants took the same route when they nailed kids ears to a board in the center of the town for not knowing the bible well enough. Salem drowned witches. Captain Pratt knew he could "Killed the Savage, and Save the Man".

The point I'm making is society's ideas on rearing others' children aren't right. I think if you're going to draw a line in the sand then it should be very well thought out, and err on the side of the parents [who I believe God sent those children to].