This is 2013. I thought we had all gotten past trying to hide who we are. I'm loud and proud and not ashamed to say I'll do it in the open and with whomever I want. Gone are the days of trying to hide behind locked doors or sneak into dodgy internet cafes to pursue a behavior I really enjoy. When I want to connect with my man friends - and open minded women - on Jazzfanz, I do so without shame. I get the affirmation I need from most of you, the kind that leaves me fulfilled and always wanting to return for more, once that warm afterglow has worn off. And if my family can't accept me for who I am, that's just too bad!