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I would advise fathers to ease on their daughters. If you pressure her, she will do it anyway. If you're confident that you've raised your daughter clever enough to make the right choices and decisions in her life macro and micro, then you don't have to worry about her wearing a mini or leaving too many buttons open. Because limitation always lits the fire of rule infraction. Rules that don't make sense are there to be driven over by teenagers.
 
addictionary said:
I would advise fathers to ease on their daughters. If you pressure her, she will do it anyway. If you're confident that you've raised your daughter clever enough to make the right choices and decisions in her life macro and micro, then you don't have to worry about her wearing a mini or leaving too many buttons open. Because limitation always lits the fire of rule infraction. Rules that don't make sense are there to be driven over by teenagers.
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With mine I try to take a "meet me in the middle approach" when we are on opposite sides of an issue.
 
Stoked said:
With mine I try to take a "meet me in the middle approach" when we are on opposite sides of an issue.
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Absolutely. The most common problem with the current youth is they get spoiled too much out of over-attention and care shown, too much toys bought, too much "I wanna have this!" fulfilled so that she won't feel unsecure and no lesser than her friends and all that. But once they start to get socialized with their age group they will face problems with sharing. Same reflects to the handling of the concept of middle ground. If they are not taught they are not the center of the ****ing world, they will again have problems finding the middle ground with their parents. Friends is a different story. They are smart enough to do the necessary sacrifice to keep their friends as friends and not get their *** kicked out of the group. You can't teach an old dog new tricks. You set your child straight from the start and the rest follows. You don't, the rest follows again.

Speaking totally without personal experience but occupational knowledge and observation. So you don't have to care about anything I say.
 
It's usually a good policy to hear people out Addictionary. Even if you don't take their advice.
 
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One Brow said:
Is there a reason one of my two daughters should not dress that way?
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Yes.

I'm not saying this is what you're doing, OB, but it's not realistic to pretend our culture has evolved so far that our behavior isn't largely based on societal constructs (i.e. a man making a value statement about a woman because she is wearing "sexy" clothing). I personally don't believe it ever will-- we are a species of social creatures, which means groups of like-minded individuals will probably always try to frame this existence with some structure of common guiding values, and other groups will always oppose them. Achieving a degree of enlightenment, or whatever, that elevates humanity as a whole above our base desires is unquestionably the ideal to strive for. Hopefully, sooner than later, we'll at least stop objectifying each other/ourselves based on physical appearance. In 2014, though, I don't know whether it's the minority or the majority of us that can't see through labels and draw conclusions based on the intrinsic value of a person, but this much is true right now: Any argument that women, for example, can safely wear clothing like this without evoking prejudice-- everything from eager approval from the mentally over-sexed to utter disdain from the "traditionally-minded"-- in some form or another would be pretty weak. Is it too bad that women can't just wear what they want because it makes them feel good? Maybe. It's rather naive to say that our convoluted sense of fashion is mainly about comfort, though. It would be difficult to convince me that a girl wearing the outfit in the photograph isn't very deliberately choosing that clothing because she wants to draw attention to her body. No doubt that's her privilege-- it's her body, it's her life, etc. The argument becomes whether or not she's doing any harm-- either to herself or to society-- by dressing that way, and that is a matter of opinion. If my 13 year-old daughter decided to dress that way, I can tell you it wouldn't fly with me. I don't trust men (the majority of them, the minority?) in our society to not deduce that she is seeking something more than a compliment, and then pursue it aggressively, perhaps eventually doing her harm. And if she were trying to take some sort of stand on what she perceives to be a social injustice, I would strongly encourage her to seek out a better cause.
 
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