Well, of course someone would bring this up, and I thought they might. The only reason I brought it up is because it's more than a reasonable response, and gives a representation of friends and family from different parts of the country. The term "Gay" is nowhere near the term "Nìgger", and therefore isn't a valid point.
Absolutely. One word has a history of being used as a specific tool of oppression. However, you're just saying that things are bad because they are the sorts of things that gay people would like, and thus bad by their association to gay people. How could that possibly be construed as offensive?