Divorce

[QuinSnydersHair]

Don't that this wrong way, but to he'll with the bitch. Get everything you can now. Protect yourself and the kids now. Make it legally binding. Like has been said already, things change in months or years. PROTECT YOURSELF AND YOUR INTERESTS.

Oh Jesus.

Anyway, most of the advice here, minus this, seems to be very strong. And as the child of a divorce (granted, I was 19), I can say it sucks and that it still greatly affects me today so I wish you, your wife, and the kids nothing but the best. I mean that. Good luck bro.

 

[Chris-L]

Thanks for all the feedback. I see where having everything in writing and figured out right now would be best. I'm just worried. For the time being we are agreeing on everything. I'm afraid if I push for things, she will push back. And being a male in Utah, it won't be hard for her to take all the kids from me. That's really all I'm worried about in all of this is losing my kids, or becoming a weekend dad. Again, she has stated she doesn't want alimoney, and I feel that's fair. She has gotten way more than I have financially over the last 5 years. I think I will look into the free legal clinic they do once a week here in STG.

 

[Hal]

Might I ask why you're deciding that a divorce is necessary?

Have you tried counseling or anything?

 

[Deleted member 365]

Goodluck man. Sorry to hear that you're getting a divorce.

 

[Beantown]

I was separated for about 4 months a few years back. Counseling saved our marriage. Also living apart and trading the kid back and forth was pure Hell. Even more so than the problems we were having.

Just saying I would atleast try hardcore counseling if at all possible.

 

[Dr. Jones]

I think Chris has been willing but the wife went cookoo on him .. (guessing though)

 

[Chris-L]

^ that. I've been trying to get her to try counseling for 6 months now. she isn't interested. thats a big part of the reason i have decided divorce is the best solution.

 

[CONAN]

That sucks. GL. I'd definitely go the legal route. Too big a deal here too half-*** it.

 

[Beantown]

^ that. I've been trying to get her to try counseling for 6 months now. she isn't interested. thats a big part of the reason i have decided divorce is the best solution.

Makes sense then.

 

[One Brow]

I'm not sure where you live, but google "non-profit or low-cost divorce or mediation." ... But you ABSOLUTELY MUST have the assistance of legal professionals.

Seconded. If everything is truly amicable, you and your soon-to-be-ex-wife should hire someone jointly as a mediator/guide. They'll make sure all the i's are dotted and the t's crossed, as well as ask questions about situations you have not yet considered.

 

[franklin]

^ that. I've been trying to get her to try counseling for 6 months now. she isn't interested. thats a big part of the reason i have decided divorce is the best solution.

Serious? I really can't imagine why anyone with kids wouldn't want to do counseling and work things out. Not trying to be a dick or anything but this is just odd.

 

[Dr. Jones]

Seconded. If everything is truly amicable, you and your soon-to-be-ex-wife should hire someone jointly as a mediator/guide. They'll make sure all the i's are dotted and the t's crossed, as well as ask questions about situations you have not yet considered.

This is a very good suggestion. Lawyering up could be perceived as trying to win vs. a mediation could be sold just as OB said.. as a guide. I like that suggestion a lot.