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Married or Single?

Marital status?

  • Single

    Votes: 17 37.0%

  • Married

    Votes: 26 56.5%

  • Divorced

    Votes: 1 2.2%

  • Widow

    Votes: 1 2.2%

  • BF/GF

    Votes: 1 2.2%

  • Civil union

    Votes: 0 0.0%
  • Total voters
    46
Gameface said:
Also, maybe I'm being too judgmental but has she just been sitting around getting heavy and dreaming of the day when when her knight in shining armor, I mean, her RM in a Mr. Mac suit arrives to sweep her off her feet? I find that very pathetic. If she hasn't been living and loving and experiencing young adult life for the last two years she's going to be a developmentally challenged person for a good long time and not good wife material.
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You're spot on, GF. I've never been a big fan of girls purposely not dating while they're waiting for a missionary. Frequently, they spend 2 years building up an image of how perfect their marriage is going to be, and they quickly become disappointed (depressed) when it doesn't unfold like they've scripted it.
 
Bronco70 said:
You're spot on, GF. I've never been a big fan of girls purposely not dating while they're waiting for a missionary. Frequently, they spend 2 years building up an image of how perfect their marriage is going to be, and they quickly become disappointed (depressed) when it doesn't unfold like they've scripted it.
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One of my cousins left a girl he had dated for years. She was practically adopted and came to a bunch of extended family events. Fast forward two years and she is waiting for him. He says thanks but no thanks. He got married to someone else years later.
 
Bronco70 said:
I like my church, but I don't like the pressure it puts on people to get married young.
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I agree, but they sort of have to. If you are in the church past 30 and not married you are very likely to leave the church. The church isn't set up for older single people.
 
CONAN said:
Never understood the whole get married quick thing. Just asking for trouble. To me, given what's at stake, you would want as much data as possible within reason. I know the LDS frowns on it but I think an ideal situation would be to live together first.
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Even outside the church they show this does no more in preventing potential divorce.
 
Beantown said:
I agree, but they sort of have to. If you are in the church past 30 and not married you are very likely to leave the church. The church isn't set up for older single people.
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Qman said:
Hmm I never felt pressure to get married young. Just to get married. But every local lead tries different means to that end.
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The church is pretty clear that they think you should get married as soon as you can. Maybe pressure was the wrong word... coercion? Encouraging marriage before 30 makes sense, but that clearly isn't the strategy.
 
Bronco70 said:
I like my church, but I don't like the pressure it puts on people to get married young.
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I think the Church pushes courtship at a young age. I don't think the Church pushes getting married young. I think that is a culture that developed and not a mandate persay.
 
Not a fan of any type of "relatioship" while on a mission and vice versa for the chick. Stupid.
 
CONAN said:
I think the Church pushes courtship at a young age. I don't think the Church pushes getting married young. I think that is a culture that developed and not a mandate persay.
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I agree it's cultural, not doctrinal, but when you encourage courtship at a young age, and enforce a strict no-sex-outside-of-marriage policy, the result is young marriages.
 
CONAN said:
Never understood the whole get married quick thing.
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Not me, it fits my gambling nature perfectly...even though I don't think it's ultimately a gamble at all. I think dating is a 3 month process,

1) Get to know the person for a couple months enough that you want to,

2) Go on a Vacation with them.

3) If they didn't drive you bat **** crazy during that trip and you have a good connection with them and like them in that way, put a ring on it. Being with somebody 24/7 for a week or so is about as good a trial run as you are going to get.

That's exactly how I see it going down for me. That's my litmus test. That time would be all I needed to know. And of course you will still be dating after being engaged for another chunk of time before you got married so there would be plenty of time to call it off. Dragging out the dating process is a huge waste of time to everybody involved to me.
 
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