Married or Single?

[Bronco70]

I think if people took the courtship idea seriously it would actually dissuade them from marrying too soon.

Agreed.

As for the no sex thing are there some kids that get married quick for the sex angle? Sure, but it's not a large number.

I can't vouch for any numbers, but I do know that it can hasten a decision. I don't think kids are necessarily thinking "ooh, we should get married, then we could get down." But I think the prospect of being allowed to do what you have been forbidden to do for years can subconsciously effect focus on some of the other aspects of marriage. I'm not saying kids should be having sex first, but I think that plays into mormons having a younger average marrying age.

Kind of a catch-22 there

Exactly.

 

[JGolds]

Married. been married for a year now.

 

[bigb]

As far as the video is concerned, I just shake my head. No matter what the relationship was like before the mission, they should give it at least a few months before locking down the wedding. If it's meant to be, it will only get better during that cooling down period.

I know a few guys that got married right off their missions that are now either unhappy or divorced. I'm not saying that's the standard, but it is what it is.

My wife and I were high school sweethearts. When I went on my mission we both knew we wanted her to date. She apparently did a lot. We wrote every week and she would go to my parents house for the twice a year phone calls. When I got home I went on a few dates before I realized I hated the dating scene. We were married after I'd been home 9 months. Been married almost 13 years.

 

[Bronco70]

My wife and I are good friends with another couple in the neighborhood. They were high school sweethearts, she waited for him and they got engaged almost immediately when he got home.

Now he has been unfaithful and she has been on the verge a couple of times. They are still together, but to call it tumultuous would be an epic understatement. They have very little in common, aside from their four kids (the only reason, I am convinced, that they are still anywhere near each other).

Again, I'm not saying this is the rule, but I'm pretty sure if they had taken it slower in the beginning, they would never have married each other.