Chris Hardwick

[Zombie]

Today I learned that the concept of emotional abuse is foreign to a lot of people. I hate to speculate, but I have to wonder what it is about some men that makes them so suspicious and dismissive of this kind of thing. Almost as if there's something within their own behavior that they see in Chris Hardwick and are afraid of what it says about them.

 

[JazzGal]

I have no idea who these people are, and it sounds like my life is better for it. However, it is extremely naïve to think that it is easy for a woman to leave an abusive relationship.

Being talked into having sex is not the same as being emotionally abused into having sex.

 

[fishonjazz]

Today I learned that the concept of emotional abuse is foreign to a lot of people. I hate to speculate, but I have to wonder what it is about some men that makes them so suspicious and dismissive of this kind of thing. Almost as if there's something within their own behavior that they see in Chris Hardwick and are afraid of what it says about them.

I don’t think the CONCEPT of emotional abuse is foreign to a lot of people. I do think what qualifies as emotional abuse varies from person to person though.
Some people might think it’s emotional abuse if a husband tells his wife that if she won’t have sex with him on a particular night then he won’t take the garbage out that night. Some might even see that as a threat that can be considered sexual assault.
Others see it as a nothingburger.

Me personally think it’s ok to tell a girl that you are dating what your expectations are of them, and them of you as well. And if either isn’t living up to those expectations then I think it’s fine if you tell them you are going to break up with them for not living up to those expectations.

 

[RandyForRubio]

Today I learned that the concept of emotional abuse is foreign to a lot of people. I hate to speculate, but I have to wonder what it is about some men that makes them so suspicious and dismissive of this kind of thing. Almost as if there's something within their own behavior that they see in Chris Hardwick and are afraid of what it says about them.

I mean, even my wife read the story and didn’t think it was a big deal.

But yes, just a guy thing. That’s all it is.

 

[fishonjazz]

I have no idea who these people are, and it sounds like my life is better for it. However, it is extremely naïve to think that it is easy for a woman to leave an abusive relationship.

Being talked into having sex is not the same as being emotionally abused into having sex.

So if I tell a girl I want to break with her because our sex life isn’t satisfying to me then would that be emotional abuse?

How about if she broke up with me because she was unhappy with the quaility/frequency of the sex? Emotional abuse or not?

 

[fishonjazz]

I mean, even my wife read the story and didn’t think it was a big deal.

But yes, just a guy thing. That’s all it is.

I was gonna say the same thing.

I’m pretty sure that plenty of women don’t see the threat of a break up over lack of sex to be a horrendous thing.

 

[JazzGal]

So if I tell a girl I want to break with her because our sex life isn’t satisfying to me then would that be emotional abuse?

How about if she broke up with me because she was unhappy with the quaility/frequency of the sex? Emotional abuse or not?

Obviously people can break up with someone for whatever reasons they choose. And certainly different expectations of sex would be reasonable grounds. I have no idea what their issues were, and there are no hard and fast rules that apply equally to all relationships. Obviously other parts of their relationship would play into it.

 

[One Brow]

What about him being the victim when she cheated on him? Im sure that hurt him emotionally and probably made him feel bullied. Should be classified as sexual assault tbh.

You should really consider running some of these posts by people who care about you before you put them online. I can't even describe how this post makes you look.

 

[One Brow]

Define "bully them." One time my wife wanted to have sex and i didn't. She persuaded me into having sex though. I dont feel that i was raped.

Did she persuade you until you were crying, and then make a cute nickname for your tears?

 

[One Brow]

I mean, even my wife read the story and didn’t think it was a big deal.

But yes, just a guy thing. That’s all it is.

No, it's definitely also a female thing. I'm glad you found a wife who thinks crying during sex is no big deal. That seems like it would be important for your marriage.

 

[One Brow]

So if I tell a girl I want to break with her because our sex life isn’t satisfying to me then would that be emotional abuse?

How about if she broke up with me because she was unhappy with the quaility/frequency of the sex? Emotional abuse or not?

Do you always try to set bright boundary lines instead of trying to use empathy for a fellow human being, or are we only treated to that on JazzFanz?

 

[RandyForRubio]

No, it's definitely also a female thing. I'm glad you found a wife who thinks crying during sex is no big deal. That seems like it would be important for your marriage.

Don’t be obtuse.

Clearly, that’s not a sign of a healthy relationship. But there is a difference between manipulating for something and forcing for something. He manipulated. He was still wrong, but it wasn’t illegal.