Chris Hardwick

[One Brow]

Don’t be obtuse.

You mean, don't take you at your word when you say it wan't a big deal?

Clearly, that’s not a sign of a healthy relationship. But there is a difference between manipulating for something and forcing for something. He manipulated. He was still wrong, but it wasn’t illegal.

He manipulated her so well she broke into tears during sex? What a smoothie.

It would be convenient (yet also sad) if we had a simple word for enforced penetration similar to "homicide", so that just as we know not all homicides are murder, it can all be clear that rape is always about the law.

 

[Gameface]

You should really consider running some of these posts by people who care about you before you put them online. I can't even describe how this post makes you look.

He looks fine. The extent you are taking this to is ridiculous.

 

[fishonjazz]

You should really consider running some of these posts by people who care about you before you put them online. I can't even describe how this post makes you look.

Eh, you think that people with different opinions than you are always wrong and always look horrible. I hope one day you gain some self awareness.

 

[One Brow]

He looks fine. The extent you are taking this to is ridiculous.

He said cheating on a relationship in a manner where they have no evidence (which is what Hardwick accused her of) is just the same as emotionally bullying them. If you think that a defendable statement, defend it by all means.

 

[One Brow]

Eh, you think that people with different opinions than you are always wrong and always look horrible. I hope one day you gain some self awareness.

You mean, the level of self-awareness where I know the difference between abusing someone and having an affair?

When idestoyedthetoilet and I were discussing whether there could be a biological basis for make-up, I don't recall saying he looked horrible. Perhaps you can see the difference between the discussion, perhaps not.

 

[MVP]

One Brow, I understand your passion in defending abuse victims... problem with this particular situation - it is all - he said, she said. There is no proof if Chloe or Chris is right. So I think it would be at least more reasonable to take a bit less condemning approach towards Chris since nothing is proven to be true here. And based on the fact that he dumped her and she was desperate to get back to him I think we should at least consider a possibility of her making it all up and trying to harm him.

 

[One Brow]

One Brow, I understand your passion in defending abuse victims... problem with this particular situation - it is all - he said, she said. There is no proof if Chloe or Chris is right. So I think it would be at least more reasonable to take a bit less condemning approach towards Chris since nothing is proven to be true here. And based on the fact that he dumped her and she was desperate to get back to him I think we should at least consider a possibility of her making it all up and trying to harm him.

MVP, there are three reasons I find Chloe more convincing.

1) Many people work for Chris finds Chloe's story completely in line with how he treats co-workers.
2) Their relationship ended years ago. If this was about revenge, she would have spoken up sooner.
3) Women don't gain anything from making these revelation but doubt and scorn.

 

[Gameface]

I think you could argue that cheating is abusive.

In the end we are talking about the way one person makes another person feel. That's something that the person who is feeling has a great amount of control over.

In general, not in the context of a romantic relationship, people are not obligated to make other people feel positively (or negatively). We are not responsible for other people's emotions. We are responsible for our own emotions and the way we act based on our emotions.

To assign the level of blame, OB, that you are to Hardwick, when he made clear the terms of being in a relationship with him, I think is borderline absurd. She has a certain degree of responsibility to take ownership of her continuing voluntary participation in that relationship. That isn't to say that Hardwick wasn't emotionally abusive. It certainly isn't to say that he acted in an acceptable way. He was emotionally abusive and a giant piece of disgusting **** based on her description of the relationship, which seems to be bolstered by all the stories other people who know him have shared about his personality and the way he treated people. Hardwick sounds like a grade-A douchebag. I do believe she was a victim of emotional abuse, but that's as far as I'm willing to go with it.

 

[Siro]

Just picture that scene with him threatening to break up with her if she doesn't put out, and then them having sex while she's crying! Crazy that OB is practically the only one who thinks this is rape.

 

[fishonjazz]

Just picture that scene with him threatening to break up with her if she doesn't put out, and then them having sex while she's crying! Crazy that OB is practically the only one who thinks this is rape.

I know that in this thread I have been creating specific scenarios and trying to gauge how one brow felt about those scenarios but haven’t really gotten a response from him. Which is typical one brow. He wants control of the discussion. He comes across as having a big ego and kind of bullies people who try to engage with him using insults and other techniques.

No where in this thread have I specifically said I’m ok with having sex with a girl while she is crying because she doesn’t want to.

I have said things like I think it’s ok to have expectations (sex being one) in a relationship and that I thinks it’s ok to break up with someone if they are not meeting those expectations. Whether the male or the female is the one doing the breaking up. One brow is very hard for many posters on JazzFanz to have a discussion with. So due his nature in these discussions I believe that many posters actually respond to him differently than they would other, more receptive and easier to converse with types of people.

If one brow wasn’t the one so involved in this thread I think it would probably look more like you would expect it to.

I think there is a bit of the situation that happened with trump getting a elected happening in this thread. Conservatives had gotten tired of liberals telling them how to feel, how to talk, how to think etc to the point where they were like **** you then, we will elect this dumb ************* simply out of spite.

I could see some of that happening in this thread on a smaller scale. I often saw similar things happen when naos was heavily involved in a discussion. Some posters bring out the worst in people. One brow does for me and I think he does with other posters too.

He kinda has a reputation of being difficult, petty, stubborn, and holier than thou in many discussions. Rubs folks the wrong way sometimes I’m guessing.

 

[Siro]

I know that in this thread I have been creating specific scenarios and trying to gauge how one brow felt about those scenarios but haven’t really gotten a response from him. Which is typical one brow. He wants control of the discussion. He comes across as having a big ego and kind of bullies people who try to engage with him using insults and other techniques.

No where in this thread have I specifically said I’m ok with having sex with a girl while she is crying because she doesn’t want to.

I have said things like I think it’s ok to have expectations (sex being one) in a relationship and that I thinks it’s ok to break up with someone if they are not meeting those expectations. Whether the male or the female is the one doing the breaking up. One brow is very hard for many posters on JazzFanz to have a discussion with. So due his nature in these discussions I believe that many posters actually respond to him differently than they would other, more receptive and easier to converse with types of people.

If one brow wasn’t the one so involved in this thread I think it would probably look more like you would expect it to.

I think there is a bit of the situation that happened with trump getting a elected happening in this thread. Conservatives had gotten tired of liberals telling them how to feel, how to talk, how to think etc to the point where they were like **** you then, we will elect this dumb ************* simply out of spite.

I could see some of that happening in this thread on a smaller scale. I often saw similar things happen when naos was heavily involved in a discussion. Some posters bring out the worst in people. One brow does for me and I think he does with other posters too.

He kinda has a reputation of being difficult, petty, stubborn, and holier than thou in many discussions. Rubs folks the wrong way sometimes I’m guessing.

I personally like One Brown, and I don't find him controversial at all. As mainstream a liberal as they get. And he's well-thought out, and pretty good at explaining why he believes the things he does. I also think he's generally pretty respectful. More so than me, for example. But ya, he rubs some people the wrong way. I get it.

Having sexual expectations in a relationship is fine. He should've broken up with her if she's not being the sex slave he seems to expect his partner to be. Threatening to break up with her if she doesn't acquiesce at the spot is gross as ****. It's like when people threaten their children with abandonment if they don't fulfill some expectation or another. It's abusive. And in the case of that woman, it is sexual assault.

 

[candrew]

I personally like One Brown, and I don't find him controversial at all. As mainstream a liberal as they get. And he's well-thought out, and pretty good at explaining why he believes the things he does. I also think he's generally pretty respectful. More so than me, for example. But ya, he rubs some people the wrong way. I get it.

Having sexual expectations in a relationship is fine. He should've broken up with her if she's not being the sex slave he seems to expect his partner to be. Threatening to break up with her if she doesn't acquiesce at the spot is gross as ****. It's like when people threaten their children with abandonment if they don't fulfill some expectation or another. It's abusive. And in the case of that woman, it is sexual assault.

If Dykstra was willing to file charges and testify do you think Hardwick should be criminally indicted for sexual assault?