So if your wife come says someone attempted to rape her, you don't ask who it was? Why in the world would she not provide it? Get real.
Repeating yourself, as opposed to actually thinking about what I said, does not improve your appearance.
Many trauma victims don't want to share the details. For one thing, they are worried that their significant others will make things worse, not better. Again, you are making the conversation about you, not her, at a time she needs you to think about her more than usual.
Still, you do you.