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Archie Moses said:
Fair enough.

I've gone on plenty of dates where the girl didn't look like the pics she had or less attractive. That's a way different story than being misled with doctored pictures to hide that you're transgender. However, like BP said, there are many transgender people that you'd never know they were trans to begin with. Ultimately, I think it should be shared as a courtesy because it is a big difference that goes beyond just physical appearance.
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What about if they doctor photos to hide a scar, or a paunch belly?

Look, I get what you're saying. But I disagree that a trans person needs to disclose before the first date. I would say it needs to be before sex, certainly, and probably before any significant emotional attachment, although that is an unpredictable timeline.
 
One Brow said:
Are there any other types of genitalia issues that you feel you should be told about before a first date, or is this the only one?
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As a straight person, and having been born biologically male, if I'm dating I only expect to be notified before dating or engaging in conversation (online) if the person of interest isn't biologically a female. I think that's pretty reasonable and echoes what many would say.

If you don't expect that, that's 100% fine. You do you. Your sexual preference is yours as mine is mine.
 
gandalfe said:
What about if they doctor photos to hide a scar, or a paunch belly?

Look, I get what you're saying. But I disagree that a trans person needs to disclose before the first date. I would say it needs to be before sex, certainly, and probably before any significant emotional attachment, although that is an unpredictable timeline.
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Hiding a scare is different than hiding being born the opposite sex.

I totally respect your opinion on this and that's great you feel that way. I just feel differently. Neither of us are wrong.
 
Archie Moses said:
Hiding a scare is different than hiding being born the opposite sex.

I totally respect your opinion on this and that's great you feel that way. I just feel differently. Neither of us are wrong.
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How about a boob job? When should that be disclosed? Or penile enhancement surgery? Does that need to be disclosed before the first date?
 
gandalfe said:
How about a boob job? When should that be disclosed? Or penile enhancement surgery? Does that need to be disclosed before the first date?
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That's still different.

And it's OK if someone doesn't date someone cause they had a boob job or penis job. It's their sexuality and sexual preference. Pretty egotistical to think they should have to broaden their preference to conform with your ideology.

This is why I don't like discussing this. People will some how make it harder to understand than it is.
 
One Brow said:
A transgender woman is still a woman, and presenting themself as a woman is still presenting themself honestly.
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Ok but here is the thing.
At some point the other person is going to find out that they have a penis or did at one point. The longer it takes for this info to come out the more painful the break up will be.

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Maybe not the first date but certainly before any meaningful continuous relationship.

@gandalfe there is a clear difference between enhancement surgeries like implants and a full sex change.
 
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