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can somebody explain to me why you can't say retarded?

I got in trouble by a certain member on this board that was quick to crucify me because I used the word "retarded" once. I mean, I get how it could be offensive and all, but I don't get why people choose to be offended. For example, if you say a "mom" joke to someone who's mom died (and you didn't know) and the person expects you to know that their mom is dead and calls you out on it and expects you to know beforehand. Yeah, I see their side of why it could be offensive, but just get a little thicker skin, unless the person is actually doing something pretty dang malicious or tasteless.
 
Archie Moses said:
I got in trouble by a certain member on this board that was quick to crucify me because I used the word "retarded" once. I mean, I get how it could be offensive and all, but I don't get why people choose to be offended. For example, if you say a "mom" joke to someone who's mom died (and you didn't know) and the person expects you to know that their mom is dead and calls you out on it and expects you to know beforehand. Yeah, I see their side of why it could be offensive, but just get a little thicker skin, unless the person is actually doing something pretty dang malicious or tasteless.
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Dude, I was teaching a lesson in church when I said something like, "And that was completely retarded" -- ya, we've got a mentally handicapped guy in our class. There was dead silence as I tried to cover the slip-up with another joke but you could tell everyone was like, "Whoa, what a dick". After class, the guy came up and laughed about it with me. He didn't care.

Thick skin for the win.
 
TroutBum said:
Dude, I was teaching a lesson in church when I said something like, "And that was completely retarded" -- ya, we've got a mentally handicapped guy in our class. There was dead silence as I tried to cover the slip-up with another joke but you could tell everyone was like, "Whoa, what a dick". After class, the guy came up and laughed about it with me. He didn't care.

Thick skin for the win.
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When I lived in Palo Alto and attended the Stanford 1st Ward, one of my best friends gave a talk and accidentally used the word "gay" for "stupid". The chapel went super quiet and it was really awkward. However, it took everything in me not to bust out laughing. People take that stuff serious out there in the Bay Area.
 
The whole thick skin comment raises another interesting point of discussion. Why should that person need to have a thick skin to accept your offensive words rather than you just not saying something offensive to begin with? Shouldn't our african-american friends, for example, be required to develop a thick skin when it comes to the N word rather than us just stop saying it?
 
LogGrad98 said:
The whole thick skin comment raises another interesting point of discussion. Why should that person need to have a thick skin to accept your offensive words rather than you just not saying something offensive to begin with? Shouldn't our african-american friends, for example, be required to develop a thick skin when it comes to the N word rather than us just stop saying it?
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Dude, apples and oranges.

As for thick skin, I think it's apt. How many Mo's do you know who just need to calm down and stop caring about what people say and do all the while making fun of their religion? I have a few gay friends and never fail, we all make fun of them for it, and they turn around and make fun of us for being straight, etc.
 
LogGrad98 said:
The whole thick skin comment raises another interesting point of discussion. Why should that person need to have a thick skin to accept your offensive words rather than you just not saying something offensive to begin with? Shouldn't our african-american friends, for example, be required to develop a thick skin when it comes to the N word rather than us just stop saying it?
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I totally see your point and the answer is no. All I'm saying is we don't live in a perfect world, and sometimes people use words out of context. Like I said, I get why, and no, people don't have to "get thicker skin", it's just how I feel about it.

Another thing that rubbed me wrong is why everyone got so pissed with what Mendenhal said (the dude from the Steelers). We are so fast to crucify people as a society. We don't live in a perfect world, people, and we never will.
 
TroutBum said:
Dude, I was teaching a lesson in church when I said something like, "And that was completely retarded" -- ya, we've got a mentally handicapped guy in our class. There was dead silence as I tried to cover the slip-up with another joke but you could tell everyone was like, "Whoa, what a dick". After class, the guy came up and laughed about it with me. He didn't care.

Thick skin for the win.
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Someone needs to slap the tard who put you in charge of teaching other Mormons about Jesus.
 
Archie Moses said:
I totally see your point and the answer is no. All I'm saying is we don't live in a perfect world, and sometimes people use words out of context. Like I said, I get why, and no, people don't have to "get thicker skin", it's just how I feel about it.

Another thing that rubbed me wrong is why everyone got so pissed with what Mendenhal said (the dude from the Steelers). We are so fast to crucify people as a society. We don't live in a perfect world, people, and we never will.
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I agree for the most part. I think the best case lies somewhere in between. We need to care enough about each other to be sensitive to issues like that, but tolerant enough that we don't just go ape-**** on someone if they slip up in what they say.
 
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