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How did you meet/impress your current spouse/partner/significant other?

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who was it, then, that she just broke up with?

Finding someone on the rebound can be awesome, if you aren't throwing too much of your heart into it. The latter is a dangerous game, I think, if you're too open to people (like I often am). Always good to get a quick sense for availability... which probably can and should be done without a direction discussion on the matter.

Take it for what you will..... just offering my experience.
 
Met my girlfriend about a year ago at a retreat (kind of like a weekend orientation mixer getaway type thing) for the Ministry School I'm attending right now.

I was walking by her as she was talking to some people and she just said, "hey, I don't think I've met you yet." Then we talked for a bit.

About a week later she came over to my house on her birthday and we were planning on cooking food or something. We got to talking on the couch and six hours later realized it was 2 am and we never did anything. Seemed like only 30 min had gone by :)

Since then she was my best friend the whole year and I spent the majority of my free time with her. She came home with me to Utah for Christmas break, we went on road trips for Utes football and basketball games together, and I visited her in Switzerland (she's Swiss) this Summer. All of this just as friends (LOL)

The day I got home from Switzerland I realized I was in love with her, then waited for about a month for her to come back to the states for our 2nd year of Ministry School so that I could tell her in person. She felt the same way, and I couldn't be happier about it :)

It is strange that we developed our relationship as "friends" but I'm actually really thankful for it. We got to fall in love without all of the relationship drama, and it gave us a chance to lay the foundation of our relationship as truly loving and serving each other, instead of just physical attraction and passion.

You're gonna find a great girl Dalamon. You deserve it.
 
UGLI baby said:
Met my girlfriend about a year ago at a retreat (kind of like a weekend orientation mixer getaway type thing) for the Ministry School I'm attending right now.

I was walking by her as she was talking to some people and she just said, "hey, I don't think I've met you yet." Then we talked for a bit.

About a week later she came over to my house on her birthday and we were planning on cooking food or something. We got to talking on the couch and six hours later realized it was 2 am and we never did anything. Seemed like only 30 min had gone by :)

Since then she was my best friend the whole year and I spent the majority of my free time with her. She came home with me to Utah for Christmas break, we went on road trips for Utes football and basketball games together, and I visited her in Switzerland (she's Swiss) this Summer. All of this just as friends (LOL)

The day I got home from Switzerland I realized I was in love with her, then waited for about a month for her to come back to the states for our 2nd year of Ministry School so that I could tell her in person. She felt the same way, and I couldn't be happier about it :)

It is strange that we developed our relationship as "friends" but I'm actually really thankful for it. We got to fall in love without all of the relationship drama, and it gave us a chance to lay the foundation of our relationship as truly loving and serving each other, instead of just physical attraction and passion.

You're gonna find a great girl Dalamon. You deserve it.
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Most Christian thing I have ever read.
 
NAOS said:
who was it, then, that she just broke up with?
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It's a guy that has been into her way more than vice-versa, and she's already broken things off once. Kissed him when she was drunk a couple weeks ago, but then gave him the official "this can't go on anymore" the morning before I went out with her. If that makes sense.

Finding someone on the rebound can be awesome, if you aren't throwing too much of your heart into it. The latter is a dangerous game, I think, if you're too open to people (like I often am). Always good to get a quick sense for availability... which probably can and should be done without a direction discussion on the matter.
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I throw my heart into things a lot, I think. I'm unfortunately in one of those binds where I really, really don't want something casual. Man, I absolutely hate casual flings. I want a committed relationship with some girl that I think the world of, y'know? I'm kind of in a weird tug-of-war within myself where I'm either too picky, or I get way too excited about a girl at first, and then eventually realize that I really don't like her.

Even with the latest girl, I'm not sure if she's "the one". Other times I meet a girl, and I literally cannot stop thinking about them. This isn't the case with the most recent girl I've mentioned, but maybe it'll grow into it. Who knows. I leave the country for about 6 months in about 4 weeks time anyways.
 
NAOS said:
I had moved to LA about a year earlier, after a divorce from my six-year partner. I say "partner" because we ran off to Vegas to get married after a short time knowing one another, in order to help facilitate some traveling we'd planned to do in India and the Middle East (certain countries are harder to travel in if you're a single woman), and, from a certain perspective, getting a divorce was a foregone conclusion. She is probably a genius in mathematics -- graduated from a fancy college at 19, Master's Degree by 21 -- but she came from an upper-middle class family and had a the emotional maturity of someone who'd been coddled her whole life, which cut against my background in a number of ways. I'm surprised we made it six years, but I'm glad we did.

I'd moved to LA to finish my first big research project after graduating with my PhD in anthropology, but my interest in academia was waning fast. Someone offered me a research job that I could do from home in about 30-hours a week, and I'd make considerably more than my academic post. I thought about it, and then realized how supremely disenchanted I was with the university, and left. Now I was doubly free.

Meeting people in LA on the spur-of-the-moment is hard. People my age (early- to mid-thirties) go out in groups, and they can act very disturbed if you try to engage them. I explained this to a friend of mine, and he convinced me to sign up for an online dating account. He's a level-headed guy and he told me in no uncertain terms that literally every single person in LA is on one site or another. I got on a couple of sites and learned that if you are in LA, not a creep, reasonably attractive, and a good conversationalist, then you can go out with an attractive woman pretty much every night of the week without even sending messages. Seriously, I sent about 20 messages over the space of a year, but was getting tons of emails from women wanting to meet for drinks.

So, I was (relatively) flush with cash, had about 200% more free time than I was used to, was recently single, and in one of the most attractive and sexually liberated cities in the USA. The last time I'd dated was 6 years earlier in Salt Lake City, so this was very much like paradise. Lots of casual hooking up and return business. I wasn't looking for a commitment, and I shared that with everybody, so I only ended up getting with women who were looking for the same prospects, and they aren't in short supply around here.

Then I met someone different. Online, again. She was all I could think about. We've been having the most meaningful times of our lives together for over two years now. I'm shopping for a ring this week.
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Wow! You have a heart??

Jk, happy as hell for ya.
 
NAOS said:
I had moved to LA about a year earlier, after a divorce from my six-year partner. I say "partner" because we ran off to Vegas to get married after a short time knowing one another, in order to help facilitate some traveling we'd planned to do in India and the Middle East (certain countries are harder to travel in if you're a single woman), and, from a certain perspective, getting a divorce was a foregone conclusion. She is probably a genius in mathematics -- graduated from a fancy college at 19, Master's Degree by 21 -- but she came from an upper-middle class family and had a the emotional maturity of someone who'd been coddled her whole life, which cut against my background in a number of ways. I'm surprised we made it six years, but I'm glad we did.

I'd moved to LA to finish my first big research project after graduating with my PhD in anthropology, but my interest in academia was waning fast. Someone offered me a research job that I could do from home in about 30-hours a week, and I'd make considerably more than my academic post. I thought about it, and then realized how supremely disenchanted I was with the university, and left. Now I was doubly free.

Meeting people in LA on the spur-of-the-moment is hard. People my age (early- to mid-thirties) go out in groups, and they can act very disturbed if you try to engage them. I explained this to a friend of mine, and he convinced me to sign up for an online dating account. He's a level-headed guy and he told me in no uncertain terms that literally every single person in LA is on one site or another. I got on a couple of sites and learned that if you are in LA, not a creep, reasonably attractive, and a good conversationalist, then you can go out with an attractive woman pretty much every night of the week without even sending messages. Seriously, I sent about 20 messages over the space of a year, but was getting tons of emails from women wanting to meet for drinks.

So, I was (relatively) flush with cash, had about 200% more free time than I was used to, was recently single, and in one of the most attractive and sexually liberated cities in the USA. The last time I'd dated was 6 years earlier in Salt Lake City, so this was very much like paradise. Lots of casual hooking up and return business. I wasn't looking for a commitment, and I shared that with everybody, so I only ended up getting with women who were looking for the same prospects, and they aren't in short supply around here.

Then I met someone different. Online, again. She was all I could think about. We've been having the most meaningful times of our lives together for over two years now. I'm shopping for a ring this week.
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Happy for you bro, all the best.
 
[size/HUGE] boobs [/size];1112507 said:
There is no sort thing as significant other. Its all fake when you are in courtship. Why i call them signifi**** other not signifiCANT. **** women.
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dong2ha said:
dated a few but nothing serious... still looking for the one haha what's going on with you?


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Haha.. are they Koreans? What are korean girls like in the US? Here in NZ they are pretty friendly... :)


Nothing much going on with me.. still not the right time in my life to really commit... I did date a lovely korean girl 2 years ago but communication barrier sorta caused us to drift apart... oh well :)
 
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