Please note that the word "gay" itself isn't what's causing the issue, at least in my opinion. It's other pejorative terms that people have been using.
In other words, I myself (and probably most of the other mods) would likely not vote for an infraction for someone that just said, "That's so gay". Especially since I moved to Utah 3 years ago I've noticed many people use that phrase in contexts very unrelated to homosexuality.
Reading between the lines it would appear that Kicky is the lone crusader against using the word gay in a pejorative manner.