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Yeah that's true. That's why I'm hesitant to call her. You're probably right. I probably won't call her. It's just that my heart melts everytime I imagine her face, and last night I had a bad dream, woke up at 4am, saw her birthday notification on my phone, and couldn't go back to sleep until 7am ....
But yeah, I really shouldn't start something I know probably wouldn't work down the road. It's just so hard to let go though.
RandyForRubio
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RandyForRubio
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Why make any contact with her? It didn't end well, she hurt you, and guess what? Hard truth here, she doesn't like or want you back. If she did, she would've done something about it. Now OL, you're a needy guy. That's ok, not saying it's bad, but you have to realize it. You are needy. So you've got this girl, you dated her, she's not attentive, doesn't make you feel special, which is all fine, but those aren't the qualities that you want or need. The only thing going down this route would do is create more hurt from you. There's absolutely no point to contacting her. None.
Delete her number. Delete her birthday. Delete her from your life. Decide if you really wanna be single or. It. You know what your post says? It says, "I really want to have a relationship with somebody. Anybody." And that's ok, but you have to admit that to yourself. And if that's what you want, then go make it happen. And realize that the perfect woman doesn't exist. My wife does things that drive me nuts. I live with them because I love her. She's worth it. But you have to realize you're not going to find anybody that is perfect for you. Now I think this is the 5th or so time I've posted something similar to you. I like you OL, but I cannot stand people who constantly ask for advice, and then just ignore it and do what they want. Ok? You've heard all this stuff before. You know what to do. Just do it now.
Thanks man, appreciate the advice and the 'hard truth'. I'll try and block her out of my mind today, it'll be hard but I'm gonna try.
b_line
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I think having the mindset in life that you can do better is going to set you up for failure.
You might be able to do better, but so can literally everyone else. There is always going to be someone or something that could be for you, better than you, better at life, whatever. You just have to be happy with your level of commitment and work in the relationship or in life, or change what you can control.
You might be able to do better, but so can literally everyone else. There is always going to be someone or something that could be for you, better than you, better at life, whatever. You just have to be happy with your level of commitment and work in the relationship or in life, or change what you can control.
Yeah so I did say 'can do better' was probably not the right phrase for it, it's more finding a better fit. I've had plenty of girls hitting on me who are really nice and attentive, always texting me, etc, but I just wasn't attracted to them.. so again not the right fit..
But yeah I get what you're saying, at 1 point you've got to feel 'content' with your situation and you can't always expect to go up and up and up.
Wow ok, now I'm conflicted. Should I really? I am definitely very attracted to her. She's really good looking (for me), has a great body, presents herself very well, and is relatively down to earth. She's also not too posh... the only thing is her icy/cold exterior and not very attentive.
I guess what I'm afraid is going to happen is she just answers the phone and said 'ok, thanks', not very appreciative, and al the cold shouldering I've given her the last couple of months is all for naught. The last time I called her she said she was with a client (she's a bank manager), said she would call back but didn't.