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ONE LOVE said:
Wow ok, now I'm conflicted. Should I really? I am definitely very attracted to her. She's really good looking (for me), has a great body, presents herself very well, and is relatively down to earth. She's also not too posh... the only thing is her icy/cold exterior and not very attentive.


I guess what I'm afraid is going to happen is she just answers the phone and said 'ok, thanks', not very appreciative, and al the cold shouldering I've given her the last couple of months is all for naught. The last time I called her she said she was with a client (she's a bank manager), said she would call back but didn't.
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Screw the phone call. Just find out where the party is going to be and drop in.
 
Here's the thing - you are human and will likely make the wrong choice because it is what your heart wants. The more we tell you not to call, the more likely you will.

Or maybe you are different than me and won't repeat my mistakes.

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ONE LOVE said:
Wow ok, now I'm conflicted. Should I really? I am definitely very attracted to her. She's really good looking (for me), has a great body, presents herself very well, and is relatively down to earth. She's also not too posh... the only thing is her icy/cold exterior and not very attentive.


I guess what I'm afraid is going to happen is she just answers the phone and said 'ok, thanks', not very appreciative, and al the cold shouldering I've given her the last couple of months is all for naught. The last time I called her she said she was with a client (she's a bank manager), said she would call back but didn't.
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No! Well, let me rephrase NO! NEIN! NYET! ABSOLUTELY NOT! Dude, it's over. Let it go.
It would be different if you'd stayed friends and talked every once in a while.


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JazzGal said:
Here's the thing - you are human and will likely make the wrong choice because it is what your heart wants. The more we tell you not to call, the more likely you will.

Or maybe you are different than me and won't repeat my mistakes.

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bigb said:
No! Well, let me rephrase NO! NEIN! NYET! ABSOLUTELY NOT! Dude, it's over. Let it go.
It would be different if you'd stayed friends and talked every once in a while.


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Thanks..


Seems like the 'Nays' have it.. I wavered a bit because 8 (i.e., LazyD) suggested to call, but I think it's overwhelmingly 'No' to the call. So yes I think I'll stick with that :)
 
Thank you so much guys, it's GREAT to have JFC to turn to in these sorts of situation. Always great to get another perspective on things.
 
ONE LOVE said:
Yeah so I did say 'can do better' was probably not the right phrase for it, it's more finding a better fit. I've had plenty of girls hitting on me who are really nice and attentive, always texting me, etc, but I just wasn't attracted to them.. so again not the right fit..
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'Cause they were girls?
 
bigb said:
No! Well, let me rephrase NO! NEIN! NYET! ABSOLUTELY NOT! Dude, it's over. Let it go.
It would be different if you'd stayed friends and talked every once in a while.


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This. Don't be pathetic and chase after her like some schoolboy bitch.
 
That will be impressive if you stick with the decision. I wish I had made similar choices and saved myself lots of heartache. It is rare that a relationship that didn't work out the first time succeeds later.

Speaking of, it's my ex-fiance's birthday today.

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JazzGal said:
That will be impressive if you stick with the decision. I wish I had made similar choices and saved myself lots of heartache. It is rare that a relationship that didn't work out the first time succeeds later.

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That's true... I was actually the one who broke it off with her the first time, then after about a month I went crawling back to her thinking I could stand her icy cold persona, but the same thing happened again and we just naturally drifted apart... her reasoning has always been 'I've been busy'.


Anyway I think the discussion that took place here has given me a lot of conviction to go through with the no call option :)
 
[MENTION=631]ONE LOVE[/MENTION] you should call her. Call her and wish her a happy birthday and nothing more. It lets her know you still think about her without giving the perception that you want her back, etc.

I can tell you're really into this girl and maybe there is someway you can work it out.

What is there to lose? You don't have a girl right now. Call her and tell her happy birthday and nothing more. Make her want more of you. If your heart melts when you think of her you must be quite attracted. I actually learned to put up with my girlfriend's moodiness and attitude after awhile because I really care and like her.


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White Chocolate said:
[MENTION=631]ONE LOVE[/MENTION] you should call her. Call her and wish her a happy birthday and nothing more. It lets her know you still think about her without giving the perception that you want her back, etc.

I can tell you're really into this girl and maybe there is someway you can work it out.

What is there to lose? You don't have a girl right now. Call her and tell her happy birthday and nothing more. Make her want more of you. If your heart melts when you think of her you must be quite attracted. I actually learned to put up with my girlfriend's moodiness and attitude after awhile because I really care and like her.


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Thank you WC ... oh man, so conflicted right now. On the one hand, maybe it's best to try and forget her, or like you said just call ... what do I have to lose? (except lose face, I guess?).


Yes I am VERY into her, but I guess I'd always knew deep down inside as well that with her icy cold persona, she isn't going to be 'The One' - and that's all that matters right?
 
ONE LOVE said:
Thank you WC ... oh man, so conflicted right now. On the one hand, maybe it's best to try and forget her, or like you said just call ... what do I have to lose? (except lose face, I guess?).


Yes I am VERY into her, but I guess I'd always knew deep down inside as well that with her icy cold persona, she isn't going to be 'The One' - and that's all that matters right?
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You don't believe she is going to be "the one" no matter what? Have you guys tried working it out?


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