My analysis of OL:
It started maybe three years ago.
Doubt. Self-doubt to be precise.
He knows he's smart. He knows he's a good catch.
But the seeds of doubt begin creeping in. What will I accomplish in this life.
Financially. Relationship. Family. Happiness. Peace.
It started with business. Will I ever find my niche/my thing?
With that seed of doubt a momentum, albeit very subtle, took its first breath. And it was a reverse/negative momentum.
Rather than thinking BIG about life, he begins thinking small. Rather than, "what would I do with my life with financial success?" he begins thinking, "what is the best way to survive/sustain myself on little."
And so a journey of compromise begins unbeknownst, fully, to OL.
Problem with his love life is he's stuck somewhere in a half-pregnant world of life-compromise and feeling he shouldn't "settle" for anyone but a true HOMERUN marriage.
Seems okay, right? Well, sorta.
It's very difficult to have those two competing paradigms work together.
While OL dates girls his mouth says he wants a great woman, a great life, but his actions he wears on his sleeve is one of lacking confidence in most areas of life... a life of compromise. A woman doesn't know what to make of this and takes it as insecurity (it has become that over time) and doesn't feel secure, herself, with this guy.
Let me give you an assignment, OL (since you like TV shows and movies). Watch, and watch closely, "Bridges of Madison County." Watch the two personalities in that movie (the men of course).
I suspect you are trying to be a complete hybrid of the two and it isn't working.
Maybe try to really figure out who you are.. what you want, and really own it. By owning it I mean be done with worrying about what you aren't. It's the worrying about these things and the self-doubt that leads to unsustainable pursuits. Mixed signals. Know yourself before you can know someone else and them know you.
There's no right or wrong answers, but finding what that answer is... that's important.
Best of luck in all you do.
It started maybe three years ago.
Doubt. Self-doubt to be precise.
He knows he's smart. He knows he's a good catch.
But the seeds of doubt begin creeping in. What will I accomplish in this life.
Financially. Relationship. Family. Happiness. Peace.
It started with business. Will I ever find my niche/my thing?
With that seed of doubt a momentum, albeit very subtle, took its first breath. And it was a reverse/negative momentum.
Rather than thinking BIG about life, he begins thinking small. Rather than, "what would I do with my life with financial success?" he begins thinking, "what is the best way to survive/sustain myself on little."
And so a journey of compromise begins unbeknownst, fully, to OL.
Problem with his love life is he's stuck somewhere in a half-pregnant world of life-compromise and feeling he shouldn't "settle" for anyone but a true HOMERUN marriage.
Seems okay, right? Well, sorta.
It's very difficult to have those two competing paradigms work together.
While OL dates girls his mouth says he wants a great woman, a great life, but his actions he wears on his sleeve is one of lacking confidence in most areas of life... a life of compromise. A woman doesn't know what to make of this and takes it as insecurity (it has become that over time) and doesn't feel secure, herself, with this guy.
Let me give you an assignment, OL (since you like TV shows and movies). Watch, and watch closely, "Bridges of Madison County." Watch the two personalities in that movie (the men of course).
I suspect you are trying to be a complete hybrid of the two and it isn't working.
Maybe try to really figure out who you are.. what you want, and really own it. By owning it I mean be done with worrying about what you aren't. It's the worrying about these things and the self-doubt that leads to unsustainable pursuits. Mixed signals. Know yourself before you can know someone else and them know you.
There's no right or wrong answers, but finding what that answer is... that's important.
Best of luck in all you do.
