??? Maybe read more about people who have lead this kind of life???Research it? What in the holy hell are you talking about??? There's nothing to "research" per se.
You are an English teacher aren't you? You do read non fiction books right?
??? Maybe read more about people who have lead this kind of life???Research it? What in the holy hell are you talking about??? There's nothing to "research" per se.
Yes I do agree that girls are wayyyy more fickle here in Thailand than they are in NZ ... but yeah since I plan on moving to Thailand in just under 2 years I don't know if it's a good idea to start a relationship in NZ and then try to get her to move later on... Plus dunno how many kiwi girls are interested in moving to thailand long term.. LOL
But yeah it has become much more apparent to me on this trip how different the 2 cultures are... the people, the social environment, the hectic pace of life.. everything's so totally different.
Also too many choices is a problem for me. It's like if u live in a small town, and you go a shoe shop and there are only 5 pairs, you can pretty easily choose your favourite one and live with it, .. but when there are 100's of pairs to choose from, you start to get picky... and once you eventually ended up choosing 1 pair, .. you walk out the shop, there are 10 more shops with 100 more pairs to choose from AGAIN ...
That's what it's like here with girls.. 1,000's of pairs of 'shoes' to choose from.. literally.
LoL ... those people do get married also.So if you're moving to Thailand, my answer has now changed. You're going to have sexual reassignment surgery. Hence, you might not be married.
??? Maybe read more about people who have lead this kind of life???
You are an English teacher aren't you? You do read non fiction books right?
About to board on this 9 hour flight.. but yeah looking forward to it.. LoL ..I have the OL psychoanalysis forthcoming. When? I don't know. Hopefully today.
Brace yourself, Oney.
Unmarried... solitude... self dependent... sustainable... inner peace ...Define "this kind of life." A dull, lonely, boring one where one never gets laid or drinks? Sounds like the worst book ever.
Getting laid and drinks define your life does it??Define "this kind of life." A dull, lonely, boring one where one never gets laid or drinks? Sounds like the worst book ever.
??? Maybe read more about people who have lead this kind of life???
You are an English teacher aren't you? You do read non fiction books right?
Why? You aren't those people, and they aren't you. What you need to do is figure yourself out. If you wanna be single and happy, just do it. You don't need some dumb book for that.
You're just thinking waaaay too much. Stop that and just do something. You know why none of these dates or whatever are working? It's because you're not committed. And they know. Trust me, they know. So until you figure out what you want, and you're actually committed to it, you're just gonna see the same results.
I love your grandmaMy Gma died 2 months before her 99 BDay. So the family is getting together in central Utah this Saturday to bury her and have an impromptu family reunion. I don't think central Utah is ready lol.
She is survived by quite the legacy. 3 kids, 28 grandchildren, 81 great grandchildren and 41 great great grandchildren. Husband and 2 daughters were waiting for her when she went.
What a life she lived.
Like when she drove her car up to a local hooker when she lived in Burbank. Called the hooker over, grabbed her hair, rolled up her car window and dragged her for two blocks while she proceeded to tell her what would happen is she bothered her grandkids again.
Or when she knocked out a local sheriff in a bar with a haymaker. When asked why she said it was because he took her on a date years ago and told her to put out or get out so she got out and had to walk home in the dark for 3 miles to get home.
My analysis of OL:
It started maybe three years ago.
Doubt. Self-doubt to be precise.
He knows he's smart. He knows he's a good catch.
But the seeds of doubt begin creeping in. What will I accomplish in this life.
Financially. Relationship. Family. Happiness. Peace.
It started with business. Will I ever find my niche/my thing?
With that seed of doubt a momentum, albeit very subtle, took its first breath. And it was a reverse/negative momentum.
Rather than thinking BIG about life, he begins thinking small. Rather than, "what would I do with my life with financial success?" he begins thinking, "what is the best way to survive/sustain myself on little."
And so a journey of compromise begins unbeknownst, fully, to OL.
Problem with his love life is he's stuck somewhere in a half-pregnant world of life-compromise and feeling he shouldn't "settle" for anyone but a true HOMERUN marriage.
Seems okay, right? Well, sorta.
It's very difficult to have those two competing paradigms work together.
While OL dates girls his mouth says he wants a great woman, a great life, but his actions he wears on his sleeve is one of lacking confidence in most areas of life... a life of compromise. A woman doesn't know what to make of this and takes it as insecurity (it has become that over time) and doesn't feel secure, herself, with this guy.
Let me give you an assignment, OL (since you like TV shows and movies). Watch, and watch closely, "Bridges of Madison County." Watch the two personalities in that movie (the men of course).
I suspect you are trying to be a complete hybrid of the two and it isn't working.
Maybe try to really figure out who you are.. what you want, and really own it. By owning it I mean be done with worrying about what you aren't. It's the worrying about these things and the self-doubt that leads to unsustainable pursuits. Mixed signals. Know yourself before you can know someone else and them know you.
There's no right or wrong answers, but finding what that answer is... that's important.
Best of luck in all you do.
You think you would be the world's first hermit or something? I guess they all think they're the only one living that life.Unmarried... solitude... self dependent... sustainable... inner peace ...
I'm just interested in the path less travelled is all....
You think you would be the world's first hermit or something? I guess they all think they're the only one living that life.