Well, obviously you're too wrapped up in your special sensitivities guided by political correctness to just pass on some blatant sexist humor to tolerate the lower classes of folks like me. I've had my share of women in my life who are all wrapped up in their need to get acceptable results from their men, and I'll laugh at them and say "I don't give a damn" when I need to. Just to keep myself on task with an edge of sanity.
I think it is fundamentally intolerant of human beings to actually expect to educate and instruct other people who somehow fail to understand all you think you do. You have the process of coping with the problems in life inverted. You should work on your own failings and try to understand others and leave them the hell alone.
My higher criticism of Gone With The Wind pretty much reflects the girlfriend I had who cried when she watch that movie with me almost fifty years ago. I've never known what to think of women, really. I just think it doesn't pay to dance to their music, so to speak. I try to be nice, and will usually not bother them with my views unless it just gets so bad that if I don't say something I might forget myself and stomp on their little toes on purpose. That's what's so useful about the "I don't give a damn" strategy. . . . . it is a clear way out of an intolerable maze of crossed interpretations of reality and futile gestures of civility, with minimal damage.
Today's crop of intolerant bigots who pride themselves on being "progressive" are little different from yesterday's crop of intolerant bigots who prided themselves on being "right" somehow in some manner justifying their impositions of their ways on other people. The Ku Klux Klan mobs and the communist thugs who ransacked Russia in the 1920s running farmers out of their homes and seizing the land for "collectives" were of a common human sort. We have always used some ideal to justify our hate and abuse of others. Progressives and gays are no exceptions.
Hate is never going to be ruled out of existence by any crusaders with delusions of grandeur who believe they can make the world. . . and humans. . . . better.
Hate arises in the human heart with every idea of how to make the world better whether in terms of collective or personal aims. We cannot love without hate. You cannot make a mountain higher without digging a valley deeper. It's a yin/yang sort of thing perhaps. I cannot love the American experiment in human liberty without hating the dear old castles of Europe my ancestors lived in, and the feudal order of human society. You cannot love love your delusional ideals of a better world remade in progressive mantras without hating rednecks cruising the Southern woods with their hounds, guns, and fishing poles. You cannot think you are better somehow without thinking others are worse.
And I can't escape my own contradictions, either.
That's why the capacity to just leave other people alone is necessary to a good friendship with anyone. I might actually love ladies of culture and refinement who resort to the strategies of Scarlet O'hara for a lot of reasons or other human motives just as much as I hate them, but the fact is I will not succeed in any lasting or decent way if I try to change them somehow. That's why it can help to just say "I don't give a damn" and lecture to myself about why I can live without actually having to try to do something about it.
I believe the ideals of the American experiment in human liberty worked better for mankind than either the old feudal system of Europe or the new feudal system of progressive elitism/socialism now being "benevolently" imposed on the poor stupid humans you can't stand. I believe the fundamental right to think, speak, and feel is essential to people's capacity to achieve any of their individual goals, and that there is no better organization of society that can be achieved on a collective community, state, national or global level than can be achieved by putting premium value on "societal" goals, because the personal or individual ideals are closer to the reality of what we are.
Some have observed that all politics are local. . . but the more accurate statement is "All politics are personal". I'm just enough of globalist myself to love ideas about a "better world" somehow, but I realize people whose methods involve reshaping other people are never going to make it a better world. I can hammer away with my words on others, but unless I find something that others will choose to make their own, it's just useless ramblings of delusional mental exercise. . . . .
I've seen some examples of people whose ideals sorta took them over and pushed out personal interests and concerns even for their own welfare. Communist and even progressive ideologues can do that as well as any religious zealot. I've seen idealists go over the rim en masse for all kinds of causes seen as "for the good of others" or "to save the planet", and in almost every crusade of this sort, if you look for them, you'll see people using the movement for some personal gain. . . and in fact. . . . whipping up the sentiments via media or organizations to maximize their personal power and profit.
Alexander Solzhenitzsyn's observations on Russia led him to religiously believe the common Russian was the fundamental unit of goodness, a goodness that exists in fact only at the personal level, in the individual human soul. I think it is a universal truth, a human truth. It's the nature of human beings. No collective or social level of organization can rise above the free will or virtue of what people are as individuals.
Respect for that basic human free will is the best ideal we have ever conceived, or ever will conceive. Every ideal that tries to reshape basic human free will is an attempt to impose bondage on mankind.
Love people, hate people, love them and hate them at the same time, but leave them the hell alone.
And that, my dear, is precisely why I need to say "I don't give a damn."
