Mistress? good or bad?

[DutchJazzer]

Are we talking about a one night stand on a business trip or an on-going affair locally? My reaction would be significantly different in these two situations.

so your saying different state country is not bad, if it's a one night stand?

 

[default]

so your saying different state country is not bad, if it's a one night stand?

I'm saying that a one night stand is not a good thing, but at least it is a brief period of lust. However and ongoing affair with someone local whom you have easy access to implies an emotional connection and a reoccurring instance of behavior and thus is more of a betrayal. I think more spouses are willing to forgive a one night stand than an on-going affair.

 

[Gameface]

If you want to cheat, then you probably shouldn't even be married. Do what's best for both parties, and either don't get married or get the hell out.

I think people that cheat are some of the biggest lowlifes there are.

Yes, half the population are some of the biggest lowlifes there are.

 

[TheDude]

Yes, half the population are some of the biggest lowlifes there are.

You think it is really that high?

 

[One Brow]

Yes, half the population are some of the biggest lowlifes there are.

But only some, not even most.

 

[One Brow]

You think it is really that high?

For women, it is that high. For men, it's closer to two-thirds.

 

[TheDude]

That's astounding. Where do you get your data? (not questioning the validity)

 

[One Brow]

I read about a few surveys, but that was a couple of decades ago. I don't have anythig handy.

I'm not sure why it is astounding. Primates are not naturally monogamous; many use sexual activities even out of estrus. Why should we be any different?

 

[Gyp Rosetti]

Find out if this mistress has a hot sister or friend. Then, I'd blackmail him into letting me fornicate with the two chicas in a threesome.

 

[Scat]

I read about a few surveys, but that was a couple of decades ago. I don't have anythig handy.

I'm not sure why it is astounding. Primates are not naturally monogamous; many use sexual activities even out of estrus.

It must be OK to kill and eat your children too, eh?

Why should we be any different?

Because we can reason and comprehend consequences? I hate the "animals do it so it must be OK" crowd.

 

[Ron Mexico]

I am definitely opposed to cheating in my marriage. I feel as stated above that if you want to cheat or are cheating you should do the right thing and break up unless your spouse is okay with it.

Having said that I think a lot of people who judge people for cheating and say they never will are not in a situation to cheat. Meaning they have not had multiple attractive people pursue them. I have never cheated and don't see myself cheating but I have never had the kind of attention celebrities get like tiger woods so I cant say for sure what I would do in that situation.

I will say when I traveled for work a lot and was on my own more often the temptation greatly increased and I could see how people could falter in these situations.

Some people say you marry the person who you think is the best and most attractive person you can get.

 

[One Brow]

It must be OK to kill and eat your children too, eh?

Who said anything about it being "OK"? Lying to your spouse is about an affair is never OK.