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Cunning Linguist said:
I assume you don't literally mean a sperm donor who goes to a sperm bank and all.
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No, I mean the guy that got my future wife pregnant and had a child with her. When I came into the picture and wanted to adopt her he would hear nothing of it. He rarely if ever saw her and never paid his child support. My wife said fine, let's start acting like you are the father and set up visitation and get your child support payments caught up. It took him all of about 3 days to decide he really didn't want to pay all that money and signed away his rights. She has been mine since she was 1 and next month I get to walk her down the aisle. BOOM BITCHES!
 
Scat said:
No, I mean the guy that got my future wife pregnant and had a child with her. When I came into the picture and wanted to adopt her he would hear nothing of it. He rarely if ever saw her and never paid his child support. My wife said fine, let's start acting like you are the father and set up visitation and get your child support payments caught up. It took him all of about 3 days to decide he really didn't want to pay all that money and signed away his rights. She has been mine since she was 1 and next month I get to walk her down the aisle. BOOM BITCHES!
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Right on man! My 13 year is not biologically mine but I have had her since she was 3 and she cannot remember a time without me in her life. I look forward to walking her down the isle one day.
 
Scat said:
No, I mean the guy that got my future wife pregnant and had a child with her. When I came into the picture and wanted to adopt her he would hear nothing of it. He rarely if ever saw her and never paid his child support. My wife said fine, let's start acting like you are the father and set up visitation and get your child support payments caught up. It took him all of about 3 days to decide he really didn't want to pay all that money and signed away his rights. She has been mine since she was 1 and next month I get to walk her down the aisle. BOOM BITCHES!
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Stoked said:
Right on man! My 13 year is not biologically mine but I have had her since she was 3 and she cannot remember a time without me in her life. I look forward to walking her down the isle one day.
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Same story, except I already walked her down the aisle. The biological dad didn't even get an invite.
 
Dr. Jones said:
Same story, except I already walked her down the aisle. The biological dad didn't even get an invite.
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My 13 year olds biological was a crap dad while healthy. Then he got drunk, rode a 4 wheeler into a brick wall and cracked his head like an egg. Now he is mentally handicapped and his family wants to act like he was some fantastic father. I look forward to walking her down the isle and seeing all their outraged expressions.
 
Working on getting my 5 yo daughter biological dad to sign her over. He hasn't done it yet out of principle. He's a crap dad. We are letting his back child support add up then we'll tell him we won't pursue it if he will sign her over. Its a process.
 
Beer said:
Working on getting my 5 yo daughter biological dad to sign her over. He hasn't done it yet out of principle. He's a crap dad. We are letting his back child support add up then we'll tell him we won't pursue it if he will sign her over. Its a process.
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This is what my adoptive mom did with my 1st adoptive father. She kept quiet for 16 years while the child support he was not paying racked up for me and my brother. When it was 30k for me and another 30k for my brother she had an attorney call him.

Took them 30 minutes to get the papers signed and I suddenly had no legal father lol. Got adopted again by my step dad (since I was 5) when I was 31.
 
Scat said:
No, I mean the guy that got my future wife pregnant and had a child with her. When I came into the picture and wanted to adopt her he would hear nothing of it. He rarely if ever saw her and never paid his child support. My wife said fine, let's start acting like you are the father and set up visitation and get your child support payments caught up. It took him all of about 3 days to decide he really didn't want to pay all that money and signed away his rights. She has been mine since she was 1 and next month I get to walk her down the aisle. BOOM BITCHES!
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I thought this may be the case but didn't want to be presumptuous.

You're a good man, Charlie Brown. And that guy's a ****ing bum.
 
DutchJazzer said:
he technically will.

since in most western laws when a married woman has a kid. the husband of the wife is by law the father.

so you will need to rectify that

you will have to legally challenge the paternity, preferably after divorce.


congrats man

edit: their might be a difference in you jurisdiction. especially with the restraining order out. but probably not. he is just the father by law.
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The State is unwilling to let any potential responsible male off the hook for child support. I doubt even a document attesting paternity at the hospital will outweigh the State interest, so I believe Dutch is right after all. It might be difficult, on the same premise, to remove the legal husband from the list of potential financial responsibility even for a child born within some months after the divorce is final.

I worked in a paternity testing lab once for a while, but I was doing research on antigens, and I didn't pay much attention. The girls at the front desk, and the girls who did the paternity tests, sometimes gossiped about how many potential fathers some babies had. The State wouldn't let up on any of them as long as it couldn't be absolutely ruled out.

Here is a bit from Wikipedia on the point:

On the other hand, it could be the case where several putative fathers are fighting to establish custody. In such case, in the US, because of the Supreme Court ruling in 1989, Michael H. v. Gerald D., the mother's legal husband takes precedent over the others, even if he is not the biological father. This decision, wrote Elizabeth Wurtzel in The Atlantic, showed the court favored "stable family matters more than biology."[4]
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https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Paternity_(law)
 
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