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Stupid Pet Peeves

idestroyedthetoilet said:
My apology to @JazzGal if my way of stating an observation came off too strongly. You have an agenda history of being against male dominance. I was merely trying to state my opinion and perspective.

I don't see the current human condition of male dominance the same way you do and cannot relate because I haven't experienced the same, that's all. No trolling a sweet gal, why would I?
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Bulletproof said most of my response very well. I can only clarify I am against systemic male dominance, and ask if this means you are not opposed to systemic male dominance.
 
Bulletproof said:
What you're saying is diplomatic and very nice.

But at the same time what you're saying is that if someone is stepping on my toe and I ask them to stop I am somehow anti-whatever it is they are.
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Maybe, or maybe I'm simply a genuine person who wants to understand the complaints of others but never fully, truly can.

I like to believe members of this forum understand each other and have good enough rapport to get a discussion accomplished. Maybe my hopes are too high.
 
idestroyedthetoilet said:
My apology to @JazzGal if my way of stating an observation came off too strongly. You have an agenda history of being against male dominance. I was merely trying to state my opinion and perspective.

I don't see the current human condition of male dominance the same way you do and cannot relate because I haven't experienced the same, that's all. No trolling a sweet gal, why would I?
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No apology necessary, but thanks. And yes, I am against male dominance and female oppression. And I think a great disservice is done equating that to hatred of men. Still, you can think of me as you will. It's all good.

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JazzGal said:
No apology necessary, but thanks. And yes, I am against male dominance and female oppression. And I think a great disservice is done equating that to hatred of men. Still, you can think of me as you will. It's all good.

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Again, I worded it poorly, thinking I've read enough of your thoughts that a generic statement wouldn't come off wrong.

Plus, I'm pissed off at the world right now so I don't respond as well as i should. So there is getting back to the pet peeves for ya. I am mad at the world and don't like it.
 
My mother has a friend who is in early stages of dementia. Her son lives with her, and she supports him financially as he has not worked for several years. But he does a somewhat poor job of taking care of her, and perhaps is robbing her blind, but nothing we could prove. Right now he has not come home for several days (I imagine he is at his girlfriend's house an hour away) and he has his phone blocking her calls. Why is this my pet peeve? Because she is constantly calling my mother in a panic over everything, and my mom is constantly upset about the situation, and we don't know what to do about it. My mom just called me because her friend's phone is about to die and she can't figure out how to charge it, so she wants my mom to go buy her a new phone. Uh, no.

Edit - she and Mom found the charger. Hallelujah!
 
JazzGal said:
My mother has a friend who is in early stages of dementia. Her son lives with her, and she supports him financially as he has not worked for several years. But he does a somewhat poor job of taking care of her, and perhaps is robbing her blind, but nothing we could prove. Right now he has not come home for several days (I imagine he is at his girlfriend's house an hour away) and he has his phone blocking her calls. Why is this my pet peeve? Because she is constantly calling my mother in a panic over everything, and my mom is constantly upset about the situation, and we don't know what to do about it. My mom just called me because her friend's phone is about to die and she can't figure out how to charge it, so she wants my mom to go buy her a new phone. Uh, no.

Edit - she and Mom found the charger. Hallelujah!
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That sucks. But consider how difficult this most likely is for the son as well. Not sure if he took this on when several others also wanted to (I doubt it) but if it was basically him or nothing I'm sure it has been an enormous burden and emotionally difficult for him.
 
Bulletproof said:
That sucks. But consider how difficult this most likely is for the son as well. Not sure if he took this on when several others also wanted to (I doubt it) but if it was basically him or nothing I'm sure it has been an enormous burden and emotionally difficult for him.
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I do agree with that. I would not be very good at the caretaker role myself. But he lies to her all the time, won't tell her when he's going or coming back, and generally upsetting her at every turn. He's a former drug addict, and she's worried he has fallen off the wagon. She shouldn't be left alone for long periods of time, and he should be making arrangements for her care when he can't be there. She has one other son who wants as little as possible to do with her. It's sad and depressing, and the burden is falling to my 80-year-old mother entirely too often.
 
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