It's probably useless, but I'll try to lay out a similar situation for you so you can understand just what sort of jerk you behaved like here.
Your kid undergoes a surgery to remove a benign yet decently sized growth in chest. Perhaps a rib or two needed to be separated and then reattached in the process. The doctor will send yo9u home with a few prescriptions, including some opioids for pain. The opioids allow your kid to sleep, to eat, to do something besides focus on the pain. You carefully monitor their progress and doses, easing them along. Your child will never be quite the same again, but they'll find a new way of living that allows them to prosper and fulfill themselves.
When you talk about this on-line, some commentator tells you that kids who never take opioids are much less like to die of an overdose. The commentator calls you a child abuser for allowing your kids to even take one pill. The commentator hasn't seen your kids pain, hasn't worked through to a new future, hasn't spent nights worrying about that future and what future suffering your kids might endure. The commentator is nonetheless very self-righteous in their ignorance, and has no problem raying to the heavens you you abused your kids by giving them the opioids, because kids who never take opioids never overdose on them.
In this conversation, you are that commentator.
I'm sure your first reaction is claim that you seem some large differences between the two situations. This is naturally true, because it's an analogy. Those differences don't change who you were in this conversation, and who you seem to be determined to be.