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How about this, because you have been accusing people of making racist, bigoted, or misogynistic actions, recap for me your whole list and we will go from there

Any action that makes a distinction based on race or has a differential effect based on race, which distinction/differential has no function or practical purpose, is racist. Any action that makes a distinction based on gender or has a differential effect based on gender, which distinction/differential has no function or practical purpose, is sexist.

Your turn.
 
Any action that makes a distinction based on race or has a differential effect based on race, which distinction/differential has no function or practical purpose, is racist. Any action that makes a distinction based on gender or has a differential effect based on gender, which distinction/differential has no function or practical purpose, is sexist.


Your turn.

OK. Any action taken based on a false premise is stupid.

man, our language used to be so clear before intellectuals invented a lot of stupid words. Thinking it was their privilege to reshape mankind.
 
Any action that makes a distinction based on race or has a differential effect based on race, which distinction/differential has no function or practical purpose, is racist. Any action that makes a distinction based on gender or has a differential effect based on gender, which distinction/differential has no function or practical purpose, is sexist.

Your turn.

Specifics please. Why is Colton a bigot? Whatever it is you want to call me, go ahead... and explain why it is.

Please do so as clearly as you can with the recognition that words should be used to enhance understanding, not hide it... and spare me the "What... that's exactly what I was doing..." act.
 
Half? You're being far too generous. More like a thousandth, if that. It's one study in one city over one summer. Raqcism occurs in every city, every season, every year.

You made an argument, and as backup for your argument you gave me one link. You are correct in that it is a much smaller part of the picture and a reasonable person would understand that. Also your point makes my point stronger, and your claim that racism occurs in every city, every season, every year is just a claim. Links? As far as you have shown, a few instances of racism happened in New York one year.

Team 2 had the criminal record thrown in. Team 1 did not. Their data was complied separately.

I understand this, and as far as I'm concerned does not change anything in what I stated, and adds nothing to the point.

They never use data from all 6 teams, except for those specific numbers of 13 and 1407. Every graph present the results of an individual team. the other teams results were expected to be coveThat might have been clearer to you had you read the first footnote.

They do use data from the other teams. Specifically when they talk about when candidates are pushed down or up for different jobs than what they applied for it uses data from the other teams which muddies the water. Either use all of the data all the time, or some of the data some of the time, not back and forth.

Actually, I said anecdotes do not combine to make data. Your friends struggling to find jobs is not data. The anecdotes in this study are not data, but this study also has data.

So you will discount my life studies as worthless, but will give credence to a pretend job searcher because it's part of a study, or because it fits your needs better?

Story on starting on page 3: race of another applicant mentioned, but not hiring manager (but implied)
Story on starting on page 4: race of hiring manager not mentioned (but race of person to train was)
Story on starting on page 7: race of hiring manager not mentioned
Story on starting on page 8: race of hiring manager mentioned indirectly, by reference to the the homogenity of the the enitre mangement staff, but not directly

Again, it's clear why you think other peole read what they want to see into things. It's projection. Nice try, race of those hiring is mentioned in the report. Why mention it at all if it's not important? Either way I think the report is lacking some important elements to get a better overall picture of what's going on. To be clear, I do think discrimination does happen. Also to be clear, I don't think it is as huge as you make it out to be. Could it be you are the one projecting? Again, nice try Freud copycat.



Why? Be precise.
Because my friend, then you could see how much of a two way street these racial tendencies are. You just might see that black hiring managers will tend to be more comfortable with the black applicants and hire them more often than an applicant of another race all things being equal. I could go into more detail, but that should be enough to give a normal person an understanding of what I mean. Let me know if you need more filler words or something.


For that too happen, about one third of all the hiring managers would have had to be black, to account for blacks being hired at half the rate on a preferential basis. Based on demographic data in management, do you have any idea how stupid that sounds?
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Yes, when you say something stupid, it sounds stupid, and I've "talked" with you a lot lately. I completely understand how your logical jumps sound stupid.
Let me explain it to you as I would to any rational circle thinking adult.
" Okay Biff, now if every single black hiring manager gave the black applicants a call back that would only require from the two teams for there to be 23 out of over 500 hiring managers to be black" I don't know where you did your math, but the black applicants only got 23 positive responses which would be nowhere near half or whatever the crap you were saying. I'm pretty sure all of the positive responses were not from black hiring managers, so that number could be even lower.
So you completely did not get what my point was, and I have no idea what you were trying to say there... so we are on the same page right?



The study accounted for that, remember?
In a controlled environment. What happens when they get out there in live situations? Did these applicants train with the Marines for years so they would act exactly the same way in every type of situation they would encounter? Does even every single Marine act exactly the same in every scenario they encounter? Seriously, do you live in a box? Are you a character from a book that you cannot understand things like this?



You're obviously grasping at straws, looking for any reason you can thibnk of to discredit this study.
I don't need to grasp at straws to see the limitations of the study. It is a nice little study and is good in plenty of ways, just is very limited in what it can tell you. I don't need to discredit it at all, just pointing out how limited it is when you are trying to use it as your main backup as to why you think the way you think.



Considering you can't even present the content of the paper with any degree of accuracy, your accusation rings hollow.

That's rich. Give me moar.

I think testers have been on more than one team.
Interesting, I could see that as possible. Makes sense.



I wasn't aware that decades of research could be fairly characterized as a "bandwagon", and I have never treated this study as more than one among many, and the product of human flaws. I don't need a Scripture in my life, and it I didn't, it wouldn't be a study.

I'm pretty sure it only took them about a year, if that.

However, you do need one, don't you?

Yes, I desire the word of God in my life.



I've been in the whole picture for long time now. Do you really think this study is an anomoly of some sort?

Why don't you link me the rest of the studies and I'll get back to you. Obviously the big picture I see is a little more positive than the one you paint for me.



No, only the realization that humans are not telepathic. They can't read good intentions in your mind, nor mine. So, only your actions determine how you get perceived. It's obvious to anyone who doesn't bury their head in ther sand.

So anyone who sees those same actions and yet does not perceive them the same way you do, must have their head buried in the sand? Genius!

Self control leads to a change in action, and so can self-awareness. You can be too comfortable in your own skin, if it mean you act like a jerk to others.
And the super sensitive think everyone is a jerk and out to get them. That perception doesn't make them right, because they perceive it that way does not mean people actually are out to get them, or that everyone are jerks.


AKA The Golden Rule.
Not quite. That would be do unto others what you would have them do unto you. Not really do whatever others want you to do so you don't offend them.



I was unaware that being considerate was just a show for you. I have heretofore thought that being considerate was a goal of yours.
Oh, I was translating what you were saying. It seems to me you are all about perceptions, and that everyone around you should determine who and what you are instead of you being who and what you are and dealing with those around you in the best way possible.



Exactly. If you say my words are hurtful to you, than I need to accept that they are, even if I don't mean any hurt by them. It's my responsibility to weigh that injury caused and make sure I do as little as possible. I'm honestly surprised if you don't agree.

Meh. Sometimes I feel like you are trying to take my Vizzini gig and show people your dizzying intellect and reason circles around them.
It offends me, I am the fake Vizzini, not you.


Until you name the hypocrisy, the action I recommend for you but do not attempt myself, the stand I set out for you but ignore myself, your accusation of hypocrisy is itself a word game.

As to the last line... I am definitely too lazy to go through and read your posts again to point out in another endless circle what I see as your hypocrisy in what you have said only to have you act confused like you don't get it. Let me just change positions with you for a sec, because it's easier.

What? I'm not sure what you mean? Are you accepting that you are a hypocrite? Oh, ok. Good. Are we done here now. Alright, see you later. Have a good one.
 
OK, well if we ever get the issue of gay marriage figured out, maybe we can move on to this

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=D-xfaiAftJI

Night and Day...


such a great song!
 
No Reply to Roacho's posts?

C'mon fellas, don't act like it never existed.




I hear ya. I got yo back. What we all need to do is take a step back, understand, and consequently address the concerns of the opposing view. So lets go back to the article:




There are several question I have about the term "fundamental institution" and it's application of the term marriage. So the question ends up, where did marriage begin? Where does "marriage" fit into society? Seems like the earliest beginnings are found as a way to alleviate the male inadequacy of wondering whether a child is his. This isn't a problem anymore, as genetic paternity tests will tell us all we need to know.

Another possibility is possession.. oft enough through recorded history, a man binds a woman in marriage, and that woman is his, and only his. To do with as he pleases, and not to have to worry about another "doing unto her". With the adoption of women's rights, this doesn't seem right anymore either.

The next, and I think the only thing left, is religion. And, well, it doesn't add up. See, we have a freedom of religion in this country. You are more than welcome to practice any religion you wish. Since religious opinions on gay marriage vary(often wildly), sticking to "defend traditional marriage" at the government level simply can not exist. There are many laws separating church and state(although the line does gray in some states a bit), so why are you, armed only with your religion, trying to fight that? Within your religion you can do whatever the hell you want. You have that right. That right is broken at the point you are trying to push your value unto others.



I'm sorry, but the pressure to "do the right thing" isn't stopping anyone from getting a divorce. Perhaps had they a clear, non-judgmental upbringing, they'd understand better what they actually want instead of what they think society should want them to want. In my opinion, the answer shouldn't be to keep people together, unhappily forever.. but to get people to explore themselves and perspective partners before procreation. An ounce of prevention is worth a ton of cure.

TL;DR version;

If you don't want gay marriage, don't marry gay.

If you don't want to lose your spouse, get to know them better before you tie the knot.

Still hate gay marriage? You're welcome to. Just don't force that belief on anyone else.
 
No Reply to Roacho's posts?

C'mon fellas, don't act like it never existed.

So, as I read ElRoacho, it sounds more like this:

If you don't want a real marriage involving someone who's in some fundamental biological way different from you both physically and neurologically, and maybe even emotionally, don't do it.

If you really want a fake marriage involving someone who's pretty much just like yourself, and you really want to call it love, well. . . . don't expect others to necessarily approve of your silliness.

If you're angry that society, law, and the settled beliefs of a lot people won't treat you in all the same ways as they do real marriage, get a lawyer to help you negotiate a pay and benefits package that will give benefits to your household members just like employers do for legal families, get some smart legislators elected who will re-write tax and inheritance laws in ways that will allow you to have the same kinds of benefits any other household does.

Live with whoever you want for whatever reasons you want, and convince society there is no reason not to treat your household in exactly the same way regular man/woman households, or single parent, or single folks households. . . are treated. Figure out how to legally create a tiered committment legal structure that would protect folks who are just casual players with loose commitments in a way that is consistent with their desire to avoid actual legal obligations such as they might fear in a legal marriage, and convince judges somehow that it's all cool because they're not going to be asked to judge you by the wrong set of rules, and that there have been no consequences that require some imposition of justice on the people involved. well, maybe a simple contract among involved parties could do that. And if you really want a serious commitment relationship with anyone, get to know them first, talk things through, and develop some serious understanding, and get a contract that reflects it. Lifetime companionship, comfort, whatever the hell you want. If it goes well, fine. If it goes south like some "marriages", get your lawyers to ask the judge to apply the same kinds of rules to settling your differences as they do with "marriage", or maybe just follow the terms of the contract. . . .

Just don't expect moralists, or believers in actual physical reality, or people who otherwise want to seek an improved society based on their own different ideas to really want you disrupting their way of life. hmmmm..... maybe you don't really need to do that last one. . . . just don't go disrupting other peoples' ways of life and demanding they change their views to suit yourself.

But most of all, try to ditch the hijackers of your cause who want to create a lot of hate and controversy. Study Karl Marx so you can recognize political hacks who are trying to make merchandise out of you for their own power, and other social engineers of the whole megalomaniacal tradition of driving political and social change towards some man-made utopian belief systems supporting absolute tyranny upon all mankind, which were from the get-go intended to become state propaganda platforms for molding the world into some pipe dream. Hiss at them, make sure people don't get the idea you want to promote their cause and destroy their basic freedoms. Go about your lives, mind your own business like every other ordinary person does, and be nice to other people. Smile, say hi, and show respect for people who are different from you. Probably your whole problem with life will go away.

Nobody will really care, except a few missionaries and preachers who will look at you the same way they look at cannibal tribes, and they will come live among you and try to explain what's in their books, and love you unconditionally, and maybe spend a lifetime of service hoping to set an example in some way that you might choose to respect, and on some reflection, choose to follow.
 
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