I know folks have worse days than I had today, but I need to vent. A few years ago I had a bust-up with my dad and sister. She interfered in something I was organising and then my dad decided to stick his oar in and rang my wife and abused her (told her he'd never liked her, and neither did my late mother, amongst other things). So I rang him and told him to go to you-know-where and that my sister could go with him. My sister kept sending my kids birthday and Xmas cards though. It was my daughter's birthday recently and in it was a note saying "Auntie's moving soon, this is my mobile number." which my wife and I thought a bit odd, and obviously intended for me, not my daughter. My kids barely remember my sister and dad, they saw them so rarely anyway. Then a change of address notification from my sister arrived - with just her name, not her husbands. So I figured my sister was desperately trying to tell me she needed to see me, so I put aside my anger (and boy am I angry) and went and saw her. What I guessed had happened was what had happened; her husband of over 25 years had left her for another woman. So we talked for a while, but then she brought up dad. She kept saying "there's two sides to the story" and "it was all a big misunderstanding" but couldn't seem to grasp the essential problem; when things went pear-shaped, dad had said to her, "I'm going to ring Wendy [my wife] and tell her exactly what I think of her." Which he did, which was why my wife was so upset and why I am so angry. But my sister seemed to think this shouldn't be a problem and even implied it was all MY fault. Really? So my dad says things to my wife that she says are so bad she doesn't even wanted to tell me what he said, and this is my fault? And I'm supposed to just forgive and forget? Heck, I told my sister that Wendy has said she would never forgive him, and neither will I, but I don't think it registered. Same old same old - how I feel just doesn't matter to my family. Anyway, although I fell sorry for my sister and what's happening to her - it's barely been a month since they separated and her not-yet-ex is already engaged, yet he took years to marry my sister (and even then they eloped, which broke my mother's heart) - I left feeling just as bitter and angry as before I went to see her. Not looking for compassion, sympathy advice or anything, just wanted to let out my rage.