Which girl would you rather marry?
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This topic really made me stop and think, which rarely happens on this site. A lot has changed for me over the last 7(!) years of marriage, and I actually had to think deeply about which one I would choose if given a re-do. I chose A, but it was really close to going the other direction. For 6.8 years, my wife has been a SAH mom, even when we didn't have kids. She has always worked in a salon, but usually only one or two days a week, for a few hours -- that doesn't count as work. (as I've stated in arguments before (ugh, bad idea)) I never had a problem with it until money started to get tight. She now has a FT job at a hospital and works graveyard shifts, but makes double/triple what I make, and I have had to become the SAH dad. I've enjoyed both, but I think I would prefer that my wife stay home and raise my girls. She's much better at it than I am, and frankly, I'm a terrible teacher. Thankfully, this will only be temporary.
On the flip side, man, I would love to not work anymore. I have an uncle who is in his 70's and hasn't worked a day since he was mid 30's. His wife retired from QWEST as the Sr. Vice President, and is richer than God. (Hayward) They never had kids, and they live the freaking life. She's an absolute train-wreck, has no friends, has no family (that respects her), and will die lonely -- but oh, the times they had! I think I could handle having unlimited funds/time for the majority of my life while my wife worked.
I'm going to assume that you've never actually had the chance to do it. I thought the same way until it happened, and now have a bigger appreciation for what SAH parents do.
On the flip side, man, I would love to not work anymore. I have an uncle who is in his 70's and hasn't worked a day since he was mid 30's. His wife retired from QWEST as the Sr. Vice President, and is richer than God. (Hayward) They never had kids, and they live the freaking life. She's an absolute train-wreck, has no friends, has no family (that respects her), and will die lonely -- but oh, the times they had! I think I could handle having unlimited funds/time for the majority of my life while my wife worked.
I don't think it's easy or anything like that. But I imagine it'd be enjoyable. When i lived in Provo, I used to volunteer at a bunch of schools. I looked forward to it, and I consider it a very good experience. But I also enjoy my job, and I enjoy going to school. There is no way to know which I'd like better without actually trying it first. But as long as I can continue with my studies, at least part time, I'd be satisfied. I'm very easy to please!
Not trying to be offensive or cut you down, but I'm very suspicious of any man that wants to spend a lot of time around other people's kids.
What a disappointing thread. The OP had promiss...
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I've learned Duck jerked off to a librarian who scared the hell out of her and then disappointed with some **** your gold worship reality...
That Trout should get up before 11:00 a.m. to make money...
That Candrew is a golddigger...
That Freak really is a Freak wannabe...
That Millsapa has a new job as gojazz69...
That Balk Swordsmenz likes to **** his pants multiple times dailey...
That siromar is obsessed with learning but heretofore refused to express anything beside a state mental custody status...
The failure is all yours. I used to help a number of children who did not speak English as a native tongue (I speak a couple beside English). If everyone based their worldview on reality TV, then we're really screwed.
I don't know what reality TV you're referring to, dudes that are into kids creep me out.
Hantlers
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This cracked me up.
Duck Rodgers
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I was hoping you were piling up during the drop. 20 more things have happened that are positive for Gold since the last time we went over this.
Volunteering at schools is a totally different thing than staying home and taking care of your own kids every day. While I absolutely love my kids like no other, I HATE the nights when my wife goes out. She totally deserves it, so I don't have any problem with her going out with her friends, but staying home to babysit my kids sucks ***. When I come home from a bad day at work, my wife will jokingly ask if we should switch (me stay home and ehr go out and get a job). I ask which two kids she wants to keep and which two she wants to give away. I have no doubt it will get easier/better when my youngest two get older, but for now, it sucks.