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My truth.
My wife is full of life, beautiful, caring, loves me dearly... all the things one would hope for..
Still, if we were ever done, for whatever reason, I'd be single forever. I've been happy to compromise my time, feelings, and what I want to do when I want to do it for almost 20 years.
But I wouldn't do it going forward if given a choice. Would spend my time on my kids and stuff I want to do, only.
My wife is full of life, beautiful, caring, loves me dearly... all the things one would hope for..
Still, if we were ever done, for whatever reason, I'd be single forever. I've been happy to compromise my time, feelings, and what I want to do when I want to do it for almost 20 years.
But I wouldn't do it going forward if given a choice. Would spend my time on my kids and stuff I want to do, only.
It IS a string of honest expressions ....
I never thought I'd want to be single for life, ... but after this trip I'm starting to see it. After disappointing dates after disappointing dates ... compromises after compromises... many times on this trip I long for free days where I can just spend time by myself and do stuff I really enjoy.
Also, wouldn't it be better to find a woman in NZ than prostitute-infested Thailand?
I mean, it's not like it's called "marriage material" it's called Bangkok.
I hate to go full Yoda on ya.. but I don't believe in finding true love when you're in pursuit of it.
Let it go. And let it show up unexpectedly.
NAOS
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I feel you on this. The relationship I'm in right now will be the one that I give !00% to. If it were to go belly-up, then I'd also divorce the idea of this kind of relationship. Hopefully I it works out, though. And hopefully there's at least one kid.... because even if we were to split, I know she'd always be an excellent mother and that any kid would be lucky to inherit whatever genes and charms they got from her.
I'm moving to Bkk in 2 years, no use finding someone in NZ who wouldn't want to re-locate ...
NAOS
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why are you moving there? Sounds dope, btw. It also sounds like I'd have a helluva lot more fun there than you. But, still, cool, braugh.
Dude. You've got the whole concept wrong.
There's only one person in this life you choose.
You don't choose your kids, don't choose your parents.. Only choose your spouse.
Maybe a Russian is what you need.
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I lack the experience of some of y'all in this front, but this is the truest ****. I don't think I know anyone who's ended up with a super super successful relationship after being in a consuming pursuit of one.
Partnership is so fulfilling, I understand your anxiety in wanting to find your S.O.-- but please don't let your life be defined by this. Find other ways to nourish and fulfill yourself outside of your work and family life. What you'll notice is that as you build these other aspects of your life, newer social circles will emerge in areas of interest. As this happens, you'll see that you'll start meeting new people.
I'll let you extrapolate the rest. Best of luck.
I went an took a dump on my neighbors porch because she lets her bitch diddle on my lawn.
Should have got a bag an started it on fire
Perhaps it's the extrapolating that's causing the problem
This sounds like teenager advise. How old are you?
Joe Bagadonuts
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This sounds like teenager criticism of adult advise. How old are you?
Boris is just a schtick. Schtick's have no age.
Joe Bagadonuts
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I thought the schtick age came shortly after the stone age and just before the break your bone age.
Duck Rodgers
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And you said you've been over there for two months? That's way too many first dates. Where are you meeting these girls? Are they all Thai or do you have some expats mixed in that 12? Unless these girls are all bailing on you...and wouldn't accept 2nd dates with you.....which of course you probably wouldn't admit is happening on here if that was the case....... But if it's you just moving on that quick.......you gotta stick in longer than that.....your standard to want to take a girl out on a 2nd date shouldn't be that high. If you even like 1 thing about them after that first date, it's probably worth seeing what happens once you warm to each other a little.
Plus just having a person to go do something with.