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Have you ever cheated on your spouse?

  • No

    Votes: 28 93.3%

  • Yes but just one time

    Votes: 0 0.0%

  • Yes with one partner multiple times

    Votes: 1 3.3%

  • Yes with more than one person

    Votes: 1 3.3%
  • Total voters
    30
  • Poll closed .
Rubashov said:
I've been the other party a couple of times. Had an affair with a girl for a while that I regret cause ultimately it ****ed her up a bit, put her in a position that took her a long time to recover from.
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Ball gags and donkeys will do that.
 
gandalfe said:
Current spouse or any spouse?

Also, do you have a specific definition of cheating in mind? Like, what about online sexy talk? Or a platonic kiss? Is it whatever I would consider cheating, or what my wife would?
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I think it would always have to be what the other party would consider cheating. I had a close friend in college, my study partner, that I met because we had the same major and were on virtually the same timeline. We had maybe 70% of our classes together and ended up planning it that way as we progressed so we could help each other. She was attractive, smart, funny, and we were very compatible. I had more in common with her than I did my wife in lots of ways. I would have been all over that if I hadn't already been married. But it was strictly platonic. However a few times my wife expressed that she was uncomfortable with the relationship. I reassured her nothing was happening, because nothing had happened, physically anyway. I imagine there were a few times that this woman and I shared intimate information with each other. She was relatively newly married, couple of years, as was I, and it isn't always peaches and cream in a young (or any age I guess) marriage, so we were sounding boards for each other. We ended up graduating together and had our arms around each other at graduation. Later my wife told me she felt I had been cheating on her with this other woman. She knew we had never done anything physical, and told me she knew that it was innocent, but that it put a knot in her gut to think about it at all. I suppose the relationship we had was just short of a marriage...very close friends. I didn't get it at the time because I was young and stupid. But to this day it bothers my wife a little bit, even after we have been married for 30 years. And I feel a little ashamed at my behavior, getting so close to another woman, even though I felt it was completely innocent at the time.

So was that cheating? I didn't think so at all back then, but the emotional aspect is just as important as the physical in some ways, so for my wife, I think she has the feelings as if I cheated even if nothing physical ever happened. I might have to say that it was cheating on some level. They call that an emotional affair I would guess, although usually that has a sexual component to it, sexy talk, flirting, minor touches, sexting even. This had none of that, but it was still fairly intimate.
 
gandalfe said:
I actually do have a couple of friends who kiss hello or goodbye.
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Sure, but there's a difference between a peck on the cheek and something like this.



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LogGrad98 said:
I think it would always have to be what the other party would consider cheating. I had a close friend in college, my study partner, that I met because we had the same major and were on virtually the same timeline. We had maybe 70% of our classes together and ended up planning it that way as we progressed so we could help each other. She was attractive, smart, funny, and we were very compatible. I had more in common with her than I did my wife in lots of ways. I would have been all over that if I hadn't already been married. But it was strictly platonic. However a few times my wife expressed that she was uncomfortable with the relationship. I reassured her nothing was happening, because nothing had happened, physically anyway. I imagine there were a few times that this woman and I shared intimate information with each other. She was relatively newly married, couple of years, as was I, and it isn't always peaches and cream in a young (or any age I guess) marriage, so we were sounding boards for each other. We ended up graduating together and had our arms around each other at graduation. Later my wife told me she felt I had been cheating on her with this other woman. She knew we had never done anything physical, and told me she knew that it was innocent, but that it put a knot in her gut to think about it at all. I suppose the relationship we had was just short of a marriage...very close friends. I didn't get it at the time because I was young and stupid. But to this day it bothers my wife a little bit, even after we have been married for 30 years. And I feel a little ashamed at my behavior, getting so close to another woman, even though I felt it was completely innocent at the time.

So was that cheating? I didn't think so at all back then, but the emotional aspect is just as important as the physical in some ways, so for my wife, I think she has the feelings as if I cheated even if nothing physical ever happened. I might have to say that it was cheating on some level. They call that an emotional affair I would guess, although usually that has a sexual component to it, sexy talk, flirting, minor touches, sexting even. This had none of that, but it was still fairly intimate.
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Jesus, that’s not cheating. That’s interacting with another human being you Mormon freak.
 
Keefe said:
Jesus, that’s not cheating. That’s interacting with another human being you Mormon freak.
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Calm yo **** bro. I was just giving an example that it depends on the perception of the partner what might constitute cheating. Just because you are a heathen hedonist doesn't mean everyone is.
 
LogGrad98 said:
Calm yo **** bro. I was just giving an example that it depends on the perception of the partner what might constitute cheating. Just because you are a heathen hedonist doesn't mean everyone is.
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It doesn’t depend on that imo. It depends on what is a basic reality. If some woman thinks that is cheating, she’s immature, insecure and ******* crazy.
 
I have updated my vote because I did actually cheat on my first wife - but in my defense, not only had it been a year since we had *AHEM* been intimate, but she had been actively telling me she didn't love me.

My having an affair was actually enough of a shock that she did try to salvage the marriage, but it only lasted another year or so. We should never have been together in the first place, and the only good thing that came out of it (besides our cats, who have both long since passed) was better taste in underwear.
 
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