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Gay marriage in Utah put on hold

There is an openly gay man in my current ward. He chooses to remain celibate rather than commit the sin of homosexual acts and rather than live in a sham marriage. He told me he believes he will be rewarded in the next life for his faithfulness in this one and that is how he does it. He said it is no different than someone who may have a physical disability that would make it difficult to either find a mate or consummate a marriage and, if they can do it, why can't he. He views his feelings toward the same sex as his test in this life. Nicest guy you will ever meet.
 
However, seeing as I literally cannot think of 5 people in the world who have an incessant desire to have this sort of right,

that does not mean it was irght in the 80's i bet you you could not think of 5 homosexuals.

when something is taboo it si in secret.


btw browse an adult film store orshop you might be suprissed/disgusted how many incest related movies there are
 
But isn't this what OB is saying? The church has the right to disallow gay marriage. But since that is not justified with a rational argument with axioms we can all agree upon, it is fair to say that their position is discriminatory. Given the general pattern of human social progress, the position will be judged as such in retrospect.

so saying marriage is about procreation and creation of a family by procreation is not rational?
 
There is an openly gay man in my current ward. He chooses to remain celibate rather than commit the sin of homosexual acts and rather than live in a sham marriage. He told me he believes he will be rewarded in the next life for his faithfulness in this one and that is how he does it. He said it is no different than someone who may have a physical disability that would make it difficult to either find a mate or consummate a marriage and, if they can do it, why can't he. He views his feelings toward the same sex as his test in this life. Nicest guy you will ever meet.

yet the ward is able to let him sit there without calling him to repent of his sinful heart?

In your opinion, what if a man who is in every inclination or sentiment or physical attraction a complete polygynist? Your ward would not shun him for his moral inclinations?

the reality is we all have our special antipathies, and we treat others in the ways we are comfortably prepared to.

Looking at the world on a schema of individual entitlements is the polar opposite of the teachings of Christ, which recognized the impossibility of making everyone else "perfect" somehow, and making the individual who would choose to follow the principle conscientiously, able to respond to the evil in others in a positive way, returning good where evil is received.

The whole concept is empowering the person who cares to do better, not forcing everyone.
 
Consider this a response to your various jabs against the LDS "faith". I think I have elsewhere laid out distinctions between "faith" and "logic". Do "religious" people have any "rights" at all to use their natural human rights to establish a legal structure compatible with their ideals? Why should anyone else have civil rights of that kind. . . . to exercise political franchise to establish laws after their own ideals?

Our American founding fathers actually had some discussions about the need for making a claim of higher authority, or higher moral authority, than a simple claim that humans have a right to do what they please, in establishing a political structure. They realized what no one here has mentioned. . . . If the claim is merely that people are free, there is a problem with that.

They accordingly invoked the moral authority for their revolution of a Supreme Being, an absolute moral authority that is "higher" than man himself.

If we construct a set of laws based merely on what we are, on what we wish, or on what we choose, we face the problem of what I laughingly call the Nietzchean Nightmare. If we enact "law" based on our own authority, why should anyone hold it in any regard? Does one man, or set of men, have higher authority than another? Does a State have higher authority than a rebel?

I am fundamentally against agenda pushers with their special ideas forcing their way on others, just as I am against those "others" who have exercised their majority perks to force their ways on others in the past.

What our founders did, while invoking the authority of "Nature's God" in proclaiming the "self-evident" human right to replace governments abusive of human liberty, was a radical departure from the Western Tradition flowing from a Christianity that embraced statism some thirteen hundred years earlier. They took Biblical ideals about inherent human values derived from an anthropocentric "God" that had handed down a Law, a Law that was based on the existence of an absolute Law Giver giving man specific duties and rights and defining "righteousness", and merely asserted that a set of understandable human rights exist because that fact is supported by the Ultimate Authority.

Scientists use the same foundation when they pursue their Scientific Method, with the understanding that the Universe is fundamentally ordered, and understandable. The Scientific Method I embrace refers to an inherently independent self-existing reality that exists on its own authority and nature, not on a "politically expedient" human agenda we can create or choose for ourselves, as it has in some respects been degraded to today.

What is going on now with various anti-religious movements is a problematical assertion that there is no underlying reality and that we are entitled to define and establish the "reality" that we wish to create.

This is, and always will be, a fool's errand.

We do not want a State empowered to play Fool with our lives.

whatever we believe or wish for our personal life structure, our culture, or beliefs. . .. we do not want to create this monster. . . . . A State that can define these things and give them the force of law, is the very Devil we are trying to rid ourselves of.

Whatever beliefs and social relations we want, we need to assert our "rights" without giving government the power to define them. If you want liberty in any regard, you need to accept a liberty that allows others to select for themselves their own ways as well. Generally speaking, that means you need to limit government's power by mutual agreement, not indulge in a public brawl or debate about who among us is going to win our way, and then use government authority to enforce it.

I argue that there is a self-existing reality to human nature that will determine the results of our actions. That reality determines the value of our sexual relations or actions. That reality places a premium value on heterosexual unions, and on long-term committments to a family structure. Some values can be achieved with other structures if we choose to go that way, or if for any reason that is what we are inclined to, but the premium value is propagation of our species in the face of all the challenges to our continued existence.

I agree with Dutch that "marriage" is a concept owned by it's creators, the followers of a religious tradition. It is an attack on that religious tradition to try to give government the power to define it. If we want religious freedom in any kind of "tradition", if we want freedom to claim any relation is sanctified by our beliefs, we should keep government stripped of all power to define it or regulate it.

what I would do is seek an amendment to our Constitution that removes States from all power to license or define personal relationships. I admit some value for state licensing of say building contractors, professionals, and commercial enterprises, although even those are often harmed more by State regulation than "helped". This is a radical idea. It is the same idea our founders had when they decided to be rebels, and replace their government with one that was not so inclined to play Fool and overlord us.

Gameface, religion is all about our right to believe and act as we are pleased to imagine God wants. If you want respect from others, and toleration from others, for the things you are pleased to value, you will make your case better by supporting the same rights for others.


I understand the argument that morality cannot exist if not backed by an absolute unquestionable authority. If that's the case then there is no real morality, because there has never been shown to be an unquestionable authority to enforce it. However, I believe that morality can exist even in the absence of this authority because, as you mention, reality exists. Our morality will most certainly be imperfect, however we can continue, as we have, to reduce the degree of imperfection as we gain a greater understanding of what reality is.

If God's morality were perfect and unquestionable then please explain to me the evolution in human morality within the "Christian world" over the last couple thousand years. I presented this argument to you before. The fact is that humans have always controlled the shaping of our morality. We readily abandon yesterday's unquestionable moral standards for those that better match our progressive notions of fairness and that better suit our current cultural "reality." Men do this, not God. Yet we continue to imagine that God endorses these updated notions of morality because God is fair and loving towards us.

We do not need to imagine that some sort of boogeyman is going to enforce our moral standards. Nor do we need to pretend that some supernatural being devised our moral standards for them not to fall apart. Our moral standards are not a matter of the whims of man, they never have been. If anything allows whim to control morality it is authoritarian religious institutions appealing to the authority of their God and who's intentions they are the sole interpreter of. Our moral standards come from a power greater than God, they come from reality.
 
On the topic of sibling marriage, briefly:

Even if one sibling were adopted, and not biologically related at all, I would opposed to the sibling marriage because of the unequal power structures of those entering the marriage. By contrast, I agree with stitches that if biological siblings were raised apart and were not going to have children, I don't have an objection to that marriage.

Unequal power structure between siblings?
 
The reason I would not grant incestuous people as being able to marry is because there is no way to 'prove' asexuality-- this would be a huge public health risk, and it's not hard to imagine how many would pretend to be asexual, but then go on and have sex anyways.

That's what the "scientists" said about interracial marriage.

It ain't surprising that you sound just like a eugenicist.
 
I used the segregation example because of your statements that gay marriage is "different" and therefore should not be called marriage but could be called an equivalent term, like a civil union. If that doesn't scream separate but equal to anyone but me I'll take it back.

Yes it is literally a separate but equal scenario, like calling an orange and orange and an apple and apple even though they are both fruit.
 
I agree with Dutch that "marriage" is a concept owned by it's creators, the followers of a religious tradition. It is an attack on that religious tradition to try to give government the power to define it. If we want religious freedom in any kind of "tradition", if we want freedom to claim any relation is sanctified by our beliefs, we should keep government stripped of all power to define it or regulate it.

exactly they rag on religion, yet they want to be judged on a religious concept and term.
do i go and put some vishnu statue put it on my yard with a gold chain around it?
thats what these **** are doing. taking a religion concept and making a mockery of it.
they are free to do so. but they should stfu about love and equality.
if they take a religious concept they should not be hypocrites and selectively take on certain parts of it.
****ing ****. and yes this is hatefull. so what sue me.
 
I understand the argument that morality cannot exist if not backed by an absolute unquestionable authority. If that's the case then there is no real morality, because there has never been shown to be an unquestionable authority to enforce it. However, I believe that morality can exist even in the absence of this authority because, as you mention, reality exists. Our morality will most certainly be imperfect, however we can continue, as we have, to reduce the degree of imperfection as we gain a greater understanding of what reality is.

If God's morality were perfect and unquestionable then please explain to me the evolution in human morality within the "Christian world" over the last couple thousand years. I presented this argument to you before. The fact is that humans have always controlled the shaping of our morality. We readily abandon yesterday's unquestionable moral standards for those that better match our progressive notions of fairness and that better suit our current cultural "reality." Men do this, not God. Yet we continue to imagine that God endorses these updated notions of morality because God is fair and loving towards us.

We do not need to imagine that some sort of boogeyman is going to enforce our moral standards. Nor do we need to pretend that some supernatural being devised our moral standards for them not to fall apart. Our moral standards are not a matter of the whims of man, they never have been. If anything allows whim to control morality it is authoritarian religious institutions appealing to the authority of their God and who's intentions they are the sole interpreter of. Our moral standards come from a power greater than God, they come from reality.

I rejected the notion that "God" has to "prove it" to us a long long time ago. Rather, the teachings of Christ consist of an invitation, and a warning. Presenting a choice usually involves both.

In the hands of man, "religion" becomes something else, not because God said so, or proved anything, but because we are inherently self-justifying, meaning willfully rejecting the choice. The next thing we do is resort to force to make others follow us. That's what government usually goes to.

The folks in here are doing just this. Logically speaking, we cannot escape this trap unless we turn to the God no one knows, the God no one can present objectively and make a positive and undeniable proof of. The moment we present "God" in that logical garb, we have made Him an object of our own making.

Mormons don't get it very well, either. Having a "Prophet" and an absolute claim of that sort is something apart from Jesus, who presented rather a personal sort of path to "knowing" Him and His Father.

Moses went up on the Mount and saw God, and tried to get a number of others to come up and see God, but he never brought God down. When he made something of himself, God rejected him as well.

The First Commandment consisted of not letting anyone else take the place of God in our hearts. Organized religion is one of those "anything else" items, unless that "organized religion" refuses to be anything to anyone but a servant.
 
I understand the argument that morality cannot exist if not backed by an absolute unquestionable authority. If that's the case then there is no real morality, because there has never been shown to be an unquestionable authority to enforce it. However, I believe that morality can exist even in the absence of this authority because, as you mention, reality exists. Our morality will most certainly be imperfect, however we can continue, as we have, to reduce the degree of imperfection as we gain a greater understanding of what reality is.

If God's morality were perfect and unquestionable then please explain to me the evolution in human morality within the "Christian world" over the last couple thousand years. I presented this argument to you before. The fact is that humans have always controlled the shaping of our morality. We readily abandon yesterday's unquestionable moral standards for those that better match our progressive notions of fairness and that better suit our current cultural "reality." Men do this, not God. Yet we continue to imagine that God endorses these updated notions of morality because God is fair and loving towards us.

We do not need to imagine that some sort of boogeyman is going to enforce our moral standards. Nor do we need to pretend that some supernatural being devised our moral standards for them not to fall apart. Our moral standards are not a matter of the whims of man, they never have been. If anything allows whim to control morality it is authoritarian religious institutions appealing to the authority of their God and who's intentions they are the sole interpreter of. Our moral standards come from a power greater than God, they come from reality.
If God exists, then either his proclamations are what makes things moral, or some things are inherently moral, and God simply acts to inform us of what these things are. In the first case, we must conclude that morality does NOT exist. God's commands must be followed or else! In the second case God is utterly redundant. If morality naturally exists, then it can be illuminated through human experience. In fact, God only hinders human growth by telling us what is and isn't moral, instead of letting us learn through experience.

The concept of morality only makes sense if it is a human construct created for human purposes. I can go on about this forever, but it is a pain typing on the phone.
 
So if a person has a defined genetic condition that can be passed to their progeny such as ectrodactyly, would you be on board to deny them marriage?
Yeah we can test for quite a few genetic conditions. What about the genetic predisposition toward breast cancer that caused people like Angelina Jolie to have her breasts removed pre-emptively. Maybe we should screen for that before allowing people to procreate.

The problem with 'testing' for genetic predispositions is that they're just that-- predispositions. Not having the BRCA1 gene is not a guarantee that you'll get cancer-- just like having the genes that give you susceptibility to diabetes won't necessarily cause diabetes. Even rare autosomal dominant disorders like cleft hand don't have a complete penetrance.

So if a person has a defined genetic condition that can be passed to their progeny such as ectrodactyly, would you be on board to deny them marriage?

No, because if you take any two people there will GUARANTEED be some sort of chronic or acute condition that they'll have a higher predisposition for. On these grounds, you could essentially discredit every single person from getting married.


So why draw the line at incest? Because incestuous relationships have an insanely higher rate of inbreeding, and deleterious mutations from genetic aggregation of like-alleles. It's a significantly higher danger, so it requires a different legislation behind it. Kinda like how you can have a set amount of blood alcohol in your system while you drive, but if you go way over it, it's illegal. Every human union will have a set amount of inbreeding between particular genes. That's why some amish communities actually get people to expand their gene pool. However, a certain amount of inbreeding can sometimes be too much.

So your argument against siblings being allowed to marry was arbitrary.

No, your post was a stupid argument brought forth by someone who clearly lacked an understanding of how genetics worked. I figured it was a troll at first, tbh.
 
No need to be snappy. What I meant was, the word bigoted does imply hate. It is a loaded word. The more appropriate word to use in this context is prejudiced or discriminatory. For example, affirmative action is discriminatory, but it is not bigoted. Some countries even disallow such practices for being examples of "positive discrimination".

Fair enough, there is discrimination that is used to counter other discrimination. Outside of that, I don think all discrimination is based on the otherizing of a group. Human emotions are so intertwined, that this otherizing moves from fear to hate to dismissal to fear in the blink of an eye, depending on the circumstance.
 
What, a group formed by people has determined what God's word is?! Oh gosh, this will be impossible to work around.

I sense sarcasm in your response, but it is nonetheless true. It's why liberal Catholic convents don't secede from the RCC, but seek to reform it from within. It's nice that your religious tradition gives you the freedom to shop around, but not every religion comes with that luxury. If you are gay and Catholic, or a JW, or to my understanding an LDS, when you leave you become a heretic, not an honest seeker with a difference of opinion. Telling such people to leave their church is tantamount to telling them to abandon their faith.
 
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