Free at last!!!
I can tell you that a major issue for me has been learning how to “behave” when my wife is struggling. She has a tendency to be very short and angry. It’s hard for me to not react negatively when my wife tells me to go **** myself when I ask if she has anything planned for dinner. I struggled with it for a long time. I’m still not great at it. The thing I have to remind myself is that my wife is sick. It’s not her real self saying that to me.Huge issue, maybe the single biggest issue in society right now that is looming like an iceberg, where we are only recognizing and really understanding the very tip of the problem, and everyone glosses over because we are so ill-informed, everywhere around the entire world. Yes the mind is mysterious, but mental health issues is one underlying factor, and often a huge one, for so many societal issues, including crime, abduction, divorce, bankruptcy, suicide, absenteeism, lost productivity, parental neglect, bullying, you name it. We need to take this seriously as a society, yet we do not. It really makes people uncomfortable to discuss at all, so we just don't. Someone's significant other is acting weird, they are arguing a lot, they sleep a lot, they cannot hold down a job, they have a lot of negative talk about themselves, they are sad all the time, they have a really short fuse, they occasionally mention they think about ending it all, and yet what happens is more likely divorce than getting help because the other one has no idea, zero, nada, how to help, or often any frame of reference at all to even recognize or understand depression for what it is, let alone empathize at all, and often it is damaging enough they don't think about help at all, just getting away. It is way worse than anyone thinks or acknowledges or admits or understands, pick a form of denial there.
How do we break though this one is the problem. It is a very tough nut to crack, if we ever can or will. Somehow we need to break the stigma associated with it. Like we have been doing with weed use, and about time. How do we do the same thing for mental health issues?
But I will tell you that voting against funding things like this doesn't help at all, even if the funding bill isn't perfect and includes some **** they don't like, we have to ****ing start somewhere.
I wish my wife were more open with her struggles. She refuses to tell the kids about it. She only tells me when she’s having a really bad episode. I have gotten to the point where I can see the signs, but she is very good at hiding it. She puts on a great front. I think that’s leading to some issues with my kids not wanting to go to her with issues. And because they know my wife and I discuss everything related to our family, they aren’t all that open with me either. I think my oldest daughter (18) has figured it out. I think my oldest son (15) knows there’s something going on, but isn’t sure what it is, but he may have a pretty good idea. Luckily, my wife has found a therapist that seems to be helping and I think we’ve finally found a good combination of drugs as well. The stigma of depression and anxiety, while getting better, is still very very real.