Not all and not even the majority of LDS people act like I described but yes there are people like that and it is common. I was not trying to "blow" anything out of proportion, I think a few people are trying to make this more personal than intended and more defensive than anticipated, but sometimes my writing is more direct than intended.
If it's common, then how come I've never even heard about it? I must admit, I do take religion personally, but not just my own. I am an equal opportunity butt-hurt recipient when it comes to all religions. I just can't stand it when people put out their opinions as if they're facts, especially when it involves a religion that they've likely never been a part of, and only "know" what they know from what they see on TV.
Being LDS is just as much part of the social structure of Provo as it is religion. I do believe guilt and acceptance is a part of the reason people do things. I am not saying the LDS church hammers people or forces people to pay tithes but it is a requirement to be in good standings with the LDS church hence people put more pressure on themselves to obey.
But that's just it, it isn't a requirement. And what does "good standing" mean? You can't get into a temple without a recommend, and you can't get a recommend unless you pay a full tithe -- but it's not like they print out a list of all those who aren't card carrying members. Your logic would also say that because I have a recommend, I am a superior person in my church, in good standing, and have a fast-track to heaven. As we all know, none of those things are true. Some of THE BEST people I've ever had the fortune of knowing didn't have a temple recommend because they thought tithing was pure schlock. They were all respected members of the church who had high callings and served like champs.
My understanding is the LDS church keeps record of all tithes paid provides a sheet with the numbers on it and asks if you paid your 10 percent. There is pressure for some people and people react differently to pressure.
Yes, they do give you a sheet. Like I said, I think it's for tax purposes. It does not, however, ask you if you paid your full tithe. If you want (see, it is your choice) to have a temple recommend, then you have to set a meeting with the bishop and let him know if you've paid a full tithe or not. If people feel pressure, then that's because they're idiots who want some reason to blame the church for their woe.