If it's common, then how come I've never even heard about it? I must admit, I do take religion personally, but not just my own. I am an equal opportunity butt-hurt recipient when it comes to all religions. I just can't stand it when people put out their opinions as if they're facts, especially when it involves a religion that they've likely never been a part of, and only "know" what they know from what they see on TV.
Well I have been a part of it, almost everyone in my family is a part of it and I live in provo where statistically 90% or so of the people I talk to every day are a part of it.
But that's just it, it isn't a requirement. And what does "good standing" mean? You can't get into a temple without a recommend, and you can't get a recommend unless you pay a full tithe -- but it's not like they print out a list of all those who aren't card carrying members. Your logic would also say that because I have a recommend, I am a superior person in my church, in good standing, and have a fast-track to heaven. As we all know, none of those things are true. Some of THE BEST people I've ever had the fortune of knowing didn't have a temple recommend because they thought tithing was pure schlock. They were all respected members of the church who had high callings and served like champs.
I think you are underestimating the pressure that being LDS (part of a religion) brings many people but that is just an opinion of mine and has nothing but anecdotal evidence to back it up.