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Did you have doubts when you got married?

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Did you feel anxious or have doubts before you got married? What were they? Looking back now, were their legit?

When contemplating marriage, should one really consider their race, financial matters, etc? But what if both parties appear to really want to "work things out?" Does "love" really overcome the stress, the differences, and the doubts?

thoughts?
 
What Hobo said.

I recently told my mom I probably won't get married and she probably won't have any grandkids. She got pretty upset.
 
I think it's natural to have anxiety/be nervous about getting married. That's a pretty major change. Did I have doubts? No. But my wife and I are high school sweethearts. By the time we got married, we'd been dating for almost 6 years. There wasn't much I didn't know about my wife by then. I'd seen her in just about every situation possible. Not much left to be surprised by.
 
It depends on how much you value the idea itself.

For me, marriage looks like bad news. In a general sense, it just seems like a life-ruiner. But if you have lived some life and so has your partner, that erases a lot of the problems. I personally think that age of consent to marry should be at least 21. Same with tattoos.
 
I never had doubts at the time we were getting married but I think most people do during the marriage. I think the biggest change for me was once we were married my wife thought my friends all die off. Which is now something we fight about the most. But I have a very close group of friends and we still like to hang out.

Anyway marriage is hard and it was never meant to be easy. I actually think having kids made marriage a lot more fun and easy because teamwork is essential. We have 2 little girls and doing family stuff is tons of fun. Marriage is hard, but I don't think its as hard as growing old alone without experiencing having children and seeing them grow up. Being single might be appealing when were young. But when you're old and ugly and come home to an empty house every night the appeal will be a distant memory.
 
NUMBERICA said:
I personally think that age of consent to marry should be at least 21.
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Agreed - although I'll add a guy shouldn't even think about getting married until they're 30.

Your 20's are meant for 3 things:

Finish school
Find some sort of career path where you can make a living
Get an idea of who you are as an adult and what you want out of life.

Anything else is an invitation to unecessary complications in your life.
 
Honestly I think having some doubts is a good thing. If you rush into marriage thinking it's going to be peachy every day for the next 50 years you are obviously delusional.
 
I didn't but I think I am the exception. Started dating the future wife in middle school.
 
I think if you don't get cold feet at least a little, then you aren't taken it seriously enough. It is a life-changing thing for more than just the 2 of you. It is worth a little trepidation and reflection if you are going to make it right. I think that a little doubt at the outset is a good thing, personally.

In my experience, the people who just dive in are the ones most likely to bail out.
 
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