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Reverse Pet Peeves

Had a long conversation on a train with a woman who, for some reason, told me, "Do you want to flatter a woman? Complement her shoes. Women put a lot of time into shoes, and if you let her know you noticed, it simultaneously compliments her beauty, intelligence, and fashion sense, without looking like a dopey pick up line, completely validating her for at least a few minutes. Don't be too specific or do it too often as then it gets creepy."

Probably one of the best pieces of advice I have ever received, and I can't even tell you the woman's name.

I've done this on the train from time to time after a friendly chat and it is always taken appreciatively.

The most psychological part of this compliment is probably associated with the pain women endure when wearing dress shoes. It shows them appreciation for their work instead of appearance, but that's probably a sub-conscious reaction to the compliment.
 
I love it when I see a child standing up for another who is being bullied. I go out of my way to give them kudos.

I am also a fan of people picking up trash that isn't theirs and throwing it in a trash can/recycle bin.
I love it when some one sees a guy littering, and asks them to pick it up.
 
So about 14 years ago I started wearing glasses. Just about a month ago I started wearing contacts. I can't wear "regular" contacts because of a somewhat rare type of astigmatism I have, keratoconus. So I have unusual contacts, but that's not what my reverse pet peeve is about.

I used to really enjoy when I'd get a really hot cup of coffee or tea and I'd hold it up to my face and gently blow into the cup and the steam would go into my eyes and it felt really good. Well, with glasses that didn't work and my sight without glasses is bad enough that I only take them off when I'm showering or sleeping. Well now that I've started wearing contacts I've remembered how much I enjoy that feeling. It makes me happy.
 
I love it when some one sees a guy littering, and asks them to pick it up.
I saw a fight over this kind of thing once. We were at a mall walking from our car to the building. There were some other people walking along with us (didn't know them). Some guy came speeding in in a camaro or something, swerved into a spot in front of this other guy and his family (he was with his wife, I presume, and a couple kids). As the camaro guy pulled into that spot he flicked a cigarette butt out the window that just about hit this other guy's kid. So the guy picked it up and walked over and threw it back into the camaro guy's window, telling him "don't litter *******". It got pretty hot from there.
 
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