I'm not trolling or trying to instigate when I say from the little I've read in the last 20 seconds or so that it sounds like you enable her. Am I wrong?
Having said that, is there anything she gives a **** about that if you didn't do it, she'd hem and haw, and you could use that as leverage?
I ask because your wife sounds (a bit) how MsSerp used to be. Only MsSerp has always worked. But my point is, MsSerp's cleaning (amongst other things), or lack thereof, was God awful. But I would bring it up all time, being as frank as one could possibly be, about the fact that I wouldn't tolerate such and **** had to change. Period. And it has.