The Honesty of Transgender Identity

[Gameface]

Something I’ve noticed regarding the way people talk about transgender people is that they seem to think that someone being transgender is not about the transgender person, but about them. As if transgender people are trying to trick you, but you’re just too damn clever for that. As if a transgender person is not expressing themselves and presenting themselves according to how they really feel but that they are just trying to sucker you into playing along with their prank.


Transgender people are often treated as though they are dishonest, that they are lying. It is that dismissive way of treating a transgender person’s gender identity that manifests itself in the form of refusing to address trans people according to their preferred pronouns. Something that costs you nothing. Something that takes nothing from you or your cis-gender status. It is this dismissiveness of trans gender identity that allows trans people to be dehumanized. To be treated not only like a joke, but as inherently deceptive therefore morally abhorrent.


Trans people are not trying to trick you. Identifying as a trans person comes with many risks and huge disadvantages. It would be a stupid game to play just to trick you into giving them basic respect as an individual who has every right to live their life in a way that brings them the most comfort and the greatest possibility for happiness.

 

[Siro]

The exact same post could've been made 20 years ago with "gay" replacing transgender.

 

[♪alt13]

I have been trying to avoid gender specific pronouns. I like the singular they thing for eveybody. I wish there were better options. A pronoun that just meant a singular person would be great.

I refer to my wife as a woman and myself as a man but prefer not to make any assumptions about others.

I also don't think that I should be subject to a pop quiz to guess your gender. I may be right most of the time but not all of the time.

 

[Saint Cy of JFC]

Will being transracial ever be accepted and debated as a social group that need to be protected?

 

[Archie Moses]

I've never really thought about transgender people are trying to trick you into believing them. I believe they identify with the gender they say they are - for the most part (I don't believe in 63 different genders.) I support the LGBT community and want to support anyone who's doing what makes them happy. We have one life, it's short so do what makes you happy.

There are only a few things I don't support with trans (I know that sounds really bigoted to say, but it's how I feel.) I think if you're willing to participate in controversial topics, being open and fluid is key to finding differences and common ground. I think the line should be drawn at sports participation. I do not have a problem with sharing the same bathroom with trans, but I can see where people are coming from who do - I can show examples of things that have happened too. I also don't think there should be laws to force people to call them by their pro-nouns they identify with. I will certainly call them by them out of respect and being a descent human being. I just don't think that forcing people, who believe in what they feel is factual, is the right way.

I'll probably get a lot of **** for posting these videos, but they paint a good picture of my perspective. At the end of the day though, I am willing to learn, to understand, and will follow what science says.

The first video is Joe Rogan talking to a scientist about sex and genders. The second video shows how it's hard for people to answer simple and obvious questions - basically, where do you draw the line?

Again, I don't post this to offend or to act like I'm right. I post this because I'm willing to learn and educate myself. Props to BP for making this thread.

*I removed the Joe Rogan video cause of swearing - if you want to see it, YouTube Joe Rogan Dr. Deborah Soh*

 

[Siro]

I don't even understand gender. Is gender a biological thing? I've always assumed it's just enculturation. If gender is a real biological thing in the brain, then that would be mean there is an inherent biological difference between the male and female brain, beside the effects of hormones on mental state and development. Which never made much sense to me.

 

[Saint Cy of JFC]

Imagine how tough this **** is for Spanish people.

 

[♪alt13]

I've never really thought about transgender people are trying to trick you into believing them. I believe they identify with the gender they say they are - for the most part (I don't believe in 63 different genders.) I support the LGBT community and want to support anyone who's doing what makes them happy. We have one life, it's short so do what makes you happy.

There are only a few things I don't support with trans (I know that sounds really bigoted to say, but it's how I feel.) I think if you're willing to participate in controversial topics, being open and fluid is key to finding differences and common ground. I think the line should be drawn at sports participation. I do not have a problem with sharing the same bathroom with trans, but I can see where people are coming from who do - I can show examples of things that have happened too. I also don't think there should be laws to force people to call them by their pro-nouns they identify with. I will certainly call them by them out of respect and being a descent human being. I just don't think that forcing people, who believe in what they feel is factual, is the right way.

I'll probably get a lot of **** for posting these videos, but they paint a good picture of my perspective. At the end of the day though, I am willing to learn, to understand, and will follow what science says.

The first video is Joe Rogan talking to a scientist about sex and genders. The second video shows how it's hard for people to answer simple and obvious questions - basically, where do you draw the line?

Again, I don't post this to offend or to act like I'm right. I post this because I'm willing to learn and educate myself. Props to BP for making this thread.

*I removed the Joe Rogan video cause of swearing - if you want to see it, YouTube Joe Rogan Dr. Deborah Soh*

Sex vs Gender

One is a scientific fact
One is a complex social construct

One can be identified by your DNA
One has to be discovered/experienced

I would argue that sex is binary but that Gender is a spectrum.

 

[Ron Mexico]

That second video is simply a slippery slope argument, which is a poor argument. Yes, it's hard to draw a line but each question doesn't effect the others. They are separate discussions. I'm glad most people in that video are open to new things and willing to listen and weigh the issues.

We all tend to take hard stances on something. This leaves no room for learning or adapting. It's especially an issue because it's generally areas we are not experts in. I think religion plays a large factor in this for some people and do does the way we are raised.

I had a friend who I had known as a male for a long time inform me that they are a female about 10 years ago. I tried to be as supportive as possible. I felt I simply wanted them to be happy. But the fact is the whole process made me uncomfortable and wasn't something I understood at all. But I'm sure it was fast more uncomfortable for them. Having been around more people who have changed their identity I've become more comfortable with it but it's still not something I can personally understand. I try very hard to be polite to most people and I just want people to be happy with their lives and do what makes them happy as long as they aren't interfering with others to do the same.

There transgendered issue has become much more simple for me. It's easy to see how people are on a scale and that scale can slide with sexuality and their gender.

The whole bathroom issue has never really made sense to me. I'm not sure why we just don't have individual stalls and make everything else more open. A common area to wash your hands. The more open and mixed things are the less likely something will happen. No one complains that there aren't separate port o potties at events. They are just a free for all and you come out and wash your hands... hopefully.

 

[Archie Moses]

Sex vs Gender

One is a scientific fact
One is a complex social construct

One can be identified by your DNA
One has to be discovered/experienced

I would argue that sex is binary but that Gender is a spectrum.

I get that and understand it. However, in today's age it's becoming more complicated and more and more issues are arising. If you get a chance, watch the Rogan video and Dr Soh I posted.

 

[Ron Mexico]

I would argue that sex is binary but that Gender is a spectrum.

I don't understand how one would be a spectrum and the other would not be. I think they are both on a spectrum and they both are/can be moving or sliding.

 

[Saint Cy of JFC]

I had a friend who I had known as a male for a long time inform me that they are a female about 10 years ago. I tried to be as supportive as possible. I felt I simply wanted them to be happy. But the fact is the whole process made me uncomfortable and wasn't something I understood at all. But I'm sure it was fast more uncomfortable for them. Having been around more people who have changed their identity I've become more comfortable with it but it's still not something I can personally understand. I try very hard to be polite to most people and I just want people to be happy with their lives and do what makes them happy as long as they aren't interfering with others to do the same.

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Most people dont know, or will even ever meet (knowingly), a trans person. I don't understand the whole thing at all, and I think that is largely because I've never known any of them on a personal level.