I do think Hayward and his family and others knew he was out of Utah well in advance of the circus we all witnessed.
I think the "decision" day was handled very poorly, and I lean towards somewhat intentional, in that he wanted to announce it with his blog piece to keep his brand or image as clean as his hair.
I think all the little things add up, including his wife's instagram posts, etc.
I think he's too embarrassed to call Gail and DL because he lied about the chances of him returning and because of the whole song and dance. I feel like the Jazz did everything he said he would need to stay, and then he still did not stay.
I think he doesn't like being second to Rudy because Rudy will call out people when they are being selfish or not really helping the team.
I think it's a bunch of garbage that the time has not been right to call Gail when he has plenty of time to buy a suit in Boston and post it, and get a massage, and whatever other Boston suckup things he chose to do there were going on.
I really don't think he could handle Rudy's strong personality. Just a hunch.
I've agreed with much of what has been said on this topic here.
Ultimately it was his decision. He wanted to leave long ago. He should have owned it, handled it right, and gave the Jazz a chance to do something to shore up the spot. Instead he selfishly lied and tried to hide it in an attempt to look good. Fail