RJF
Well-Known Member
I've been living with my mother for a few years as well, and it can be soul-sucking for sure. I miss my old life where I didn't have to explain why I stir things the way I do, or why I use the dish I'm using, or why I buy this brand of toilet paper. I have to explain every little thing I do. And don't get me started on how much time I have to spend on explaining her phone to her. It makes me crazy! So yeah, I get it how hard it is. And his mother is a piece of work for sure. But ignoring the issues won't make them go away. It is a danger to her to leave her alone for any length of time, and disappearing for several days is not a good thing. She hadn't eaten, she hadn't taken her pills, and she couldn't figure out what was going on. It was horrible! He is back now, thankfully. But if he does it again, she has told him that she will call the police. It is her car that he takes, and she certainly could report it stolen.
My parents biggest fear is that they’ll become a burden to me or my siblings. I tell them they won’t but until I’m in that situation I can’t begin to think how my view might change in any of the described situations discussed. The last thing I would ever want to do is put my folks in a home but if I’m ill equipped(abilities or financially) I wouldn’t really have another option. Currently I’m the most helpful and active of my siblings in my parents lives, so this could be a soon to be occurrence.