Am I wrong?
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My brother was in a very similar situation. She went through school getting her MBA and in the process, tens of thousands in loans. When they got divorced the judge determined that she was responsible for the loans and since she had an education my brother did not have to pay alimony. She was furious.
Funny part is, even with her MBA she ended up losing the house my brother let her have and now works as a secretary for a construction company. She was good at school but sucks at actually working for a living.
Funny part is, even with her MBA she ended up losing the house my brother let her have and now works as a secretary for a construction company. She was good at school but sucks at actually working for a living.
pickledXgrandma
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how big are the boobs, this is crucial
Chris-L
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thanks everyone for the input. im going to look into the mediation thing a lot more. i think that might help. either way i have a bad feeling this is going to get really bad really fast. she played the "you have no legal rights" card on my (step)daughter that i have raised since the day she was born, who has never met or known she has a biological dad. over my dead body. take the house, the cars, take it all. I will not lose my children.
Chris-L
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large C. i read statistics that like 90% of women who get boob jobs after marriage end up divorcing their husbands. shoulda listened.
Sounds like your life is about to suck hard for the next few months.
Sorry man.
I have no good advice. I just hope you get time with the children, that is huge.
Hang in there.
I have no good advice. I just hope you get time with the children, that is huge.
Hang in there.
Consider the option here.
Don't mention the boob job. That's classless.
Accept the responsibility for the loans as a write-down on child support across a few years. It'll get her on her feet and she won't be able to plead need so much in the future for herself or the kids. It'll smooth over a lot of ruffled feathers, too.
Surely the plan was that she would use her increased income to help with the family expenses later on.
I think the least-destructive plan is the best.
Don't mention the boob job. That's classless.
Accept the responsibility for the loans as a write-down on child support across a few years. It'll get her on her feet and she won't be able to plead need so much in the future for herself or the kids. It'll smooth over a lot of ruffled feathers, too.
Surely the plan was that she would use her increased income to help with the family expenses later on.
I think the least-destructive plan is the best.
A) I didn't have to read responses to say to take gamefaces advice. Solid.
B) No, that's ********. You raised her, you love her. Tell your wife to screw her head on straight for your daughter's sake. You are the father and that's final. Negotiating that is absurd and should be called a spade. Unless you're a complete abusive douchbag the kids must come first and that means a loving father in this children's life. How is holding that over your head good for this young girl?
c) when I got married, my wife had a house and was possessive of her hard earned trophy, as would be expected. One day she made the comment about her assets and "what did you bring to this?". I responded that I earned a degree while she earned equity in a house. I'm not sellsy in the least but that set it straight. It is her degree and her debt.
Best wishes too, divorce sucks. Wish it could have worked out.
