Are you guys completely cool with your kids dating/marrying someone of a different race?

[Hartsock]

Good thread. Exposes stupid losers who doesn't know the difference between religious identity and racial identity (if there ever is something like that!).

To me there is a race for stupid, ignorant, self-centered, egocentric-ethnocentric people. I wouldn't want her to hang out with him if he is from that race.

Israelis ?

 

[Stifle Tower]

First and foremost, I hate when people reference the current year because if you disagree with them you must be out of touch. Sorry. It's a pet peeve.

OK, now that I have that out of the way, I have three daughters and would have no problem with them dating or marrying a different race as long as:

1. They treat my daughter with respect and love
2. Are motivated and have a strong work ethic
3. Do not like the Lakers (this seemingly eliminates 75% of all hispanics)
4. Don't wear their pants hanging off their asses

I would much rather have my daughters be with someone like I describe above that some asshat like Justin Bieber.

What about the number of tat's?

Signed,
cj

 

[Stoked]

Good thread. Exposes stupid losers who doesn't know the difference between religious identity and racial identity (if there ever is something like that!).

To me there is a race for stupid, ignorant, self-centered, egocentric-ethnocentric people. I wouldn't want her to hang out with him if he is from that race.

What? Not a single person has gone that route. There are some that say they are fine racially but might have some spiritual misgivings based on a certain religion.

 

[Stoked]

Israelis ?

Lol, that arguement can be made both ways and be equally wrong.

 

[Siro]

I read it, didn't see anything chiding but I'm dumb so who knows.

I didn't say anything about chiding. His first sentence was a direct response to what I said. So I elaborated. I don't disagree with the last part of your sentence though.

 

[Stifle Tower]

Seriously, I will say this...
Skin color is not the issue, but socioeconomic differences are sometimes very hard to overcome. And that can be two people from the U.S. (or rather, from the same country) or two people from different countries. Religion is another biggie. Not saying it will never work, but those differences have to be thoroughly discussed and compromises agreed to before marriage. I guess my standards for dating, especially before my daughter enters college are a bit looser. The morality of the boy would be a bigger deal than anything else. And then she's an adult...so I don't have much of a say on her choices after that, other than to encourage her to find someone who treats her with respect.

 

[UGLI baby]

As long as they're not Muslim.

Confirmed.

 

[UGLI baby]

Wait, who are you fighting with?

lol'zers

tried to rep.

 

[Hartsock]

As long as they're not Muslim.

Someone had to say it. Sorry Dal.

 

[addictionary]

Israelis ?

Nope. Lol.

What? Not a single person has gone that route. There are some that say they are fine racially but might have some spiritual misgivings based on a certain religion.

And I have a problem with them. Think of your daughter having a really good relationship with a kid, you've never seen her as happy before. You believe in a giant tomato, but the kid's father worships Cthulhu who hates tomatoes and forbids his son from seeing her which breaks your daughter's heart, leading to depression and so on. People like that are the same value of people beating their little kids up in the street.

 

[HipHopAnonymous]

Scenario: Your 16 year old daughter likes a guy. Invites him over for dinner one night.


Family gets excited. Door bells, you (mother or father) open the door. Theres some black dude chilling at the door, same age as your daughter.

You don't know anything about his personality just yet. Let's say he's dressed like a normal 16 year old dude.


What his your first reaction? Does it change as the night goes on?

I'd say "I'm so sorry Jerome, but you'll have to go home. I think you know why." Just to see the reaction.

 

[YB85]

What if the kids are a different race from me?

 

[The Black Swordsman]

I am not racist, I just don't want blacks to marry my daughter and use that bbc on her!

Naww juss playin.

Now, this is going to be controversial but I got to ask it. I think Caucasians/Whites are on average by far the best looking people. Is this because I am Caucasian/White? Like do Asian's think that their own race is the best looking and Mexicans think their own race is the best looking? However in like Anime, Asians usually mimic whites (especially blond/redhead girls) and the stereotype is that black men like white women etc so I have my suspicion. One of my best friends is from Pakistan and he said he thinks Pakistani woman are the best looking but I get the feeling he is in the minority. It is an honest question!

 

[underKANTER]

As long as they're not Muslim.

Why? Not all Muslims are Terrorists or fanatic. The majority of them are moderate, intellectual and great people.

Just some names:

Enes Kanter
Mehmet Okur
Hakeem Olajuwon
Kareem Abdul-Jabbar

Hell, even Rasheed Wallace and Shaquille O'Neal are Muslim, I think.

Neither race, religion nor nationality should play a role. It's all about education. For sure, similar origins makes sense since it makes a lot of things easier like raising a child or how both families get along.

Still, if you fall in love with someone and the girl/guy is a good person, it's all that matters. Real parents should be happy if their child is also. You never know what kind of surprises destiny will bring.

Some should stop having prejudices if they don't have a clue. Give every one a chance to prove him-/ herself.

If your daughter would have dated a guy like Memo, you would have had a problem because he is 'Muslim'? Are you kidding me?

 

[Stoked]

Why? Not all Muslims are Terrorists or fanatic. The majority of them are moderate, intellectual and great people.

Just some names:

Enes Kanter
Mehmet Okur
Hakeem Olajuwon
Kareem Abdul-Jabbar

Hell, even Rasheed Wallace and Shaquille O'Neal are Muslim, I think.

Neither race, religion nor nationality should play a role. It's all about education. For sure, similar origins makes sense since it makes a lot of things easier like raising a child or how both families get along.

Still, if you fall in love with someone and the girl/guy is a good person, it's all that matters. Real parents should be happy, too if their child is happy.

Some of you guys should stop prejudices if they have no clue. Give every one a chance to prove him-/ herself.

I understand your arguement. However I do not think it applies to PKM. I simply think he disagrees with the life style that active Muslims have and wants something different for his children. Disagreing does not always = prejudice. Some times it is simply disagreeing.

 

[Scat]

I'd say "I'm so sorry Jerome, but you'll have to go home. I think you know why." Just to see the reaction.

LOL

I have looked a couple of young men in the eyes and told them to be decent because I'm not afraid to go back to prison. One of them took it pretty seriously and asked my daughter several times if I really had been to prison. He didn't seem to believe her when she said I was joking.

I think the religion thing is pretty serious. I've seen people from different religions get married and all is well until they have kids and all of the sudden mom wants their kid baptized and dad doesn't and then religion is a huge issue. Even if both parents agree on how to raise their child I've seen the grandparents create quite the stink if the child is not raised a certain way.

 

[Stifle Tower]

Nope. Lol.



And I have a problem with them. Think of your daughter having a really good relationship with a kid, you've never seen her as happy before. You believe a giant tomato, but the kid's father worships Cthulhu who hates tomatoes and forbids his son from seeing him which breaks your daughter's heart, leading to depression and so on. People like that are the same value of people beating their little kids up in the street.

You're oversimplifying. Does the daughter want to worship on Sunday (or Saturday) at a church, while the prospective husband believes camping, fishing, etc. on the weekend constitutes worship of nature/God's creation? And once there are children, which church do they go to? Or not at all? What will they be taught about a higher power - if at all? What about things like baptism or communion or a bar mitzvah? There are keystone events in most religions and if the parents haven't agreed on these before marriage, considerable conflict may arise.

 

[Stifle Tower]

Excellent!
I've been told I look pretty gruff, too. I have the goatee right now, but not the bald head. I think asking the boy if he'd like to see your gun collection might also do the trick.

 

[The Black Swordsman]

There is a reason on my online dating profile I put myself as nonreligious instead of Muslim

 

[Stoked]

Nope. Lol.



And I have a problem with them. Think of your daughter having a really good relationship with a kid, you've never seen her as happy before. You believe in a giant tomato, but the kid's father worships Cthulhu who hates tomatoes and forbids his son from seeing her which breaks your daughter's heart, leading to depression and so on. People like that are the same value of people beating their little kids up in the street.

I think you are exaggerating a little but ok. I disagree.