Stupid Pet Peeves

[Miggs]

My 4.9 year old daughter not listening.

Honest question. I send her to her room for a while—20-25 minutes generally. But I feel she like needs to be there 3 hours and miss out on going to the park with me and her siblings to get the point? Thoughts?

 

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My 4.9 year old daughter not listening.

Honest question. I send her to her room for a while—20-25 minutes generally. But I feel she like needs to be there 3 hours and miss out on going to the park with me and her siblings to get the point? Thoughts?

You have to know your daughter. However, when we punish too harshly, sometimes the child remembers the punishment, but doesn't really tie it to the infraction.

Also, it's always a good idea to calm down before you decide what a punishment should be.

 

[Miggs]

You have to know your daughter. However, when we punish too harshly, sometimes the child remembers the punishment, but doesn't really tie it to the infraction.

Also, it's always a good idea to calm down before you decide what a punishment should be.

I try not to call it a punishment and tell her she’s not listening or learning and that she therefore needs to go to her room to think about it. That she needs to set an example for the other two But yeah. You’re right. I don’t want my daughter growing up to hate me, get a tat when she’s 15, bang every guy in her class, and take it up the *** and like it.

 

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I try not to call it a punishment and tell her she’s not listening or learning and that she therefore needs to go to her room to think about it.

At age 5, she's not going to do much more thinking about it after the first 15 minutes. The attention span is limited. Even if you don't call it a punishment, she knows what it is.

But yeah. You’re right. I don’t want my daughter growing up to hate me, get a tat when she’s 15, bang every guy in her class, and take it up the *** and like it.

I'm sure you're joking, but if you really want advice on dealing with teenage girls, I've had my own success and failure at being their parent.

 

[Miggs]

No I even talk to her. I tell her it’s not a punishment. That I want you to think about it...blah, blah, blah but you’re right. It feels like one to her which makes it one.

 

[JazzGal]

I don't think any Utah towns currently have watering restrictions, do they? This is one of the wettest years on record. (Certainly restrictions have existed in some previous years.)

That hasn't changed the water restrictions on cities. These are the ones for my city (Roy):
1. There is absolutely no watering between 10 am and 6 pm allowed
2. Watering on consecutive days is not allowed
3. Watering multiple times in a given day is not allowed
4. Watering for excessive lengths of time is not allowed
5. Failing to repair leaking water lines and sprinkler heads is a violation
6. Allowing secondary water to run waste down the gutter is not allowed
7. Allowing sprinkler heads to spray streets, sidewalks, or other hard-surface areas instead of landscape is not allowed.

They haven't rescinded the rules just because we've had a decent amount of rain this year.

 

[JazzGal]

Sometime soon (or maybe over the winter, so I can use the advice at the start of the spring) I'll need to start an advice thread on lawns. I can't for the life of me figure out how to get mine looking/feeling good. I water, kill the weeds, occasionally fertilize, mow about every 1.5 weeks, and it still is crap. I'm almost to the point of ripping it out and laying new sod.

My brother is in the process of doing this very thing. His grass has been always been terrible and nothing has helped.

 

[colton]

That hasn't changed the water restrictions on cities. These are the ones for my city (Roy):
1. There is absolutely no watering between 10 am and 6 pm allowed
2. Watering on consecutive days is not allowed
3. Watering multiple times in a given day is not allowed
4. Watering for excessive lengths of time is not allowed
5. Failing to repair leaking water lines and sprinkler heads is a violation
6. Allowing secondary water to run waste down the gutter is not allowed
7. Allowing sprinkler heads to spray streets, sidewalks, or other hard-surface areas instead of landscape is not allowed.

They haven't rescinded the rules just because we've had a decent amount of rain this year.

Interesting. In my city (Orem) we don't have any current restrictions at all. Like, absolutely none of the above. However, when I google it, https://www.google.com/search?q=orem+watering+restrictions, I find that there were some restrictions in some past years.

 

[colton]

My brother is in the process of doing this very thing. His grass has been always been terrible and nothing has helped.

Hope it works for him! I don't even really know how expensive that would be, but probably more than I'm willing to pay right now.

 

[colton]

Also, it's always a good idea to calm down before you decide what a punishment should be.

This is great advice.

Another piece of advice for @Wes Mantooth -- I never found that sending them to their room worked very well. But getting down at eye level, putting my hand on their shoulder, and looking them straight in the eye while talking to them was guaranteed to get their attention and have them take me seriously.

 

[Miggs]

This is great advice.

Another piece of advice for @Wes Mantooth -- I never found that sending them to their room worked very well. But getting down at eye level, putting my hand on their shoulder, and looking them straight in the eye while talking to them was guaranteed to get their attention and have them take me seriously.

I’ve done this too. And it has seemed to work. Thanks.

 

[colton]

This is great advice.

Another piece of advice for @Wes Mantooth -- I never found that sending them to their room worked very well. But getting down at eye level, putting my hand on their shoulder, and looking them straight in the eye while talking to them was guaranteed to get their attention and have them take me seriously.

As another piece of advice that was alluded to earlier-- pick your battles. And have the punishment fit the "crime". If it's something small, have the punishment be something small... because if/when something serious happens you need to have a place to escalate to.