Don't you consider it unfair to judge those raised in high crime areas, malnourished, with very few role models, where everyone who is remotely successful and could lift the community a little moves away instead, where even poorer immigrants move in and take all the remaining jobs for less pay, where retailers run from your neighborhoods and take those jobs with them, where violence is rampant, and where no matter how hard you try in school you will most likely be met with no reward?
Crediting every human with their agency does not mean we can judge everyone by the same standards or expect remotely similar outcomes of choice.
In this case, the egg (poverty) came a decade before the chicken (unmarried women).